Whats the meanest thing someone's ever said to you mid dance?

[Dancedance]

I dont know if this was meant to be "mean" or something, but someone said to me in mid dance "This song is so long." I didnt really think about what she said, but I just said, "Yea it is, my quads are killing me (it was a grind for like 4 minutes non-stop and they were real sore) then laughed it off. So any of you had some awkward/mean comments your partners gave you while you were dancing?

[thespina13]

Yeah, I've had the "this song is so long" comment too. Ouch. Usually I just smile and look directly in their eyes and say "yeah, I know what you mean."

How about "what's the matter with you?" or... "why do you keep doing that?" This was during my very very beginner phase when I was just learning. And he was a "teacher". Needless to say, I don't dance with that guy anymore.

[jhpark]

Hehe, sometimes I'm having a wonderful dance and still say, 'This is a long song". I hope they don't take it as an insult!

This isn't mid-dance, but after a couple dances in tango: was that three? Ouch.... Just stop dancing with me if you're not having fun. Geez.

[mamboqueen]

I'm with you. I've both said it and have had it said to me and never meant it or took it as an insult. It usually happens with a salsa or merengue, which sometimes can go on f_o_r_e_v_e_r!

[africana]

lol i've said that too when i'm really bored or tired, usually it's cos the song itself is boring ;)

[Peaches]

I'll add another vote...I've commented about the length of songs before, totally not meaning it as an insult.

For me, it's usually a salsa or merengue, and it just keeps going...and going...and going... I'm a smoker, and after a while, I feel it. Which is all I've ever meant.


I don't think I've ever had anything mean said, but the rudest thing every done while dancing was the last dance of the night one time. It was supposedly AT (but I'm not buying it), probably AmTango or something, and the guy absolutely COULD. NOT. LEAD. He never said anything to me, at all--not before during or after the dance--but he did resort to actually kicking my foot to try and make me step where he wanted me to. Repeatedly. I mean, I'm a beginner and I miss leads plenty, but I can follow decently at least. Or so I've been told. But to actually KICK me?!?!

I was so shocked I had no idea of what to even say at that point. Hmmm...I guess a comment about the length of the song would have been VERY appropriate!

[Dancedance]

i just guess it depends on how the person takes the "length of song" comment. But it would certainly suck to get kicked for not doing the dance perfectly, especially if you're a beginner. Sure doesnt encourage anyone to continue dancing :/

[devane]

I used to go to a place where they had a live band. The songs went on from 10 to 15 mins. You heard that comment a lot.

[wooh]

I've said that before, and add me to the list of it's nothing personal. I'm tired of the song, not of who I'm dancing with!

[la morena]

Well, the thing that upset me most was a about a year ago, maybe less than that when I had been doing salsa for about 3-4 months or so. I can generally hear the beat of the music and I could manage the basic pretty well in time. Anyway, I asked this guy to dance and he accepted. We went onto the dancefloor and I started doing the basic waiting for him to join me. But then he just said, "oh, you're no good, you can't do it" and walked off!! To be fair, I think he was drunk but it still quite upset me. Sometimes I think I am WAY too thin-skinned for social dancing.

[SPratt74]

I've been told that it was a long song too, but usually this is when it is a song that no one can really dance to. Then I'm usually like, yeah this song is a really bad song to dance to, we'll have to dance later to a better song.

But yeah, last night I was dancing with a guy that was trying to pretend he was a teacher. I asked him if he taught, and he said no, that he just taught his partner. I told him that he was good, but I got tired of hearing his comments towards me. So, I decided to really suck at the dances that we danced to, and then that way he wouldn't want to dance with me any more lol. The funny thing is that he knows I can dance, because he saw me dancing perfectly with the teachers etc. lol! I'm hoping that he'll get it into his head that he's just a bad leader that needs to work on his social skills.

[cornutt]

There was this beginner lady who came into our studio once on Friday night... I usually try to find the beginners and get them involved. Well, I danced with this lady twice, and both times she spent the whole dance telling me how bored she was. Talking to some other guys later, she did the same thing to them. Odd thing was, she stayed for the whole two hours. And she was by herself, so it's not like she had to wait for a ride or anything. :rolleyes: I don't know if she was trying to get a guy to pick her up or what. Whatever, she never came back.

[SPratt74]

I don't know if she was trying to get a guy to pick her up or what. Whatever, she never came back.

I think that is part of the reason why I first joined the owner told me that this wasn't a pickup joint lol. I had to laugh about that, because I was like well why am I here then lol? He just laughed. But there are people that go to these events for that reason. I had two mothers tell me that their sons joined our studio to pick up girls. So, I don't think that issue is something that you can control on the dance floor even though I'm sure that any owner would probably like to. I mean if they are a paying customer and actually do like to dance, are you going to turn them away? Probably not unless they do something totally uncalled for.

[Shooshoo]

I was dancing in a crowded dancefloor and I got bumped into a girl. So I turned to apoligize to her and then she just gave this THIS LOOK. So my dance partner blew her a kiss and then she SMILED and was HAPPY.

[Twilight_Elena]

I'm with you. I've both said it and have had it said to me and never meant it or took it as an insult. It usually happens with a salsa or merengue, which sometimes can go on f_o_r_e_v_e_r!

Happened to me just 2 days ago. Was dancing with a very good lead (my teacher's brother). We were both very tired and I was wearing 3" heels (:shock:), but we said what the heck. It was a mambo/salsa and it must ahev lasted 5 minutes. At some point were were going "***, isn't it going to END?" :lol:
Disclaimer: Our DJ is an idiot.

T_E

[hello]

This is very personal, but maybe someone can relate. I haven't been told verbally anything extremely rude or mean for me to remember, but I have dated guys who would not dance with me at the clubs. They would dance with a range of women, so I know it was not because of my level of dancing. At first, I thought it was just a social thing, they wanted to dance with other friends. But after a while, it was hurtful. They were wonderful in private, but out at the club, they were not attentive. Obviously I am not dating these men anymore, and have learned my lesson.

[cornutt]

I mean if they are a paying customer and actually do like to dance, are you going to turn them away? Probably not unless they do something totally uncalled for.

Well, there's two things that may look similar on the surface, but actually there's a huge difference between them. One is becoming a regular at a club or studio, getting to know a range of members of the opposite (preferred?) sex, and then at some point saying to one of them who seems favorably disposed, "I'd like to get to know you better". That's one thing. The other is going into a place for the specific purpose of walking out with a hookup. If one is looking for a potential mate, getting in with a good social group is an excellent way of doing it. :D Going around hitting on people one has just met is a terrible way of doing it. :rolleyes:

[SPratt74]

Well, there's two things that may look similar on the surface, but actually there's a huge difference between them. One is becoming a regular at a club or studio, getting to know a range of members of the opposite (preferred?) sex, and then at some point saying to one of them who seems favorably disposed, "I'd like to get to know you better". That's one thing. The other is going into a place for the specific purpose of walking out with a hookup. If one is looking for a potential mate, getting in with a good social group is an excellent way of doing it. :D Going around hitting on people one has just met is a terrible way of doing it. :rolleyes:

That's true. I've been under both circumstances as most people have. So, I understand what you are saying. ;)

[Shooshoo]

This is very personal, but maybe someone can relate. I haven't been told verbally anything extremely rude or mean for me to remember, but I have dated guys who would not dance with me at the clubs. They would dance with a range of women, so I know it was not because of my level of dancing. At first, I thought it was just a social thing, they wanted to dance with other friends. But after a while, it was hurtful. They were wonderful in private, but out at the club, they were not attentive. Obviously I am not dating these men anymore, and have learned my lesson.

:rolleyes: They were probably on a hunt for other women.

[Twilight_Elena]

This is very personal, but maybe someone can relate. I haven't been told verbally anything extremely rude or mean for me to remember, but I have dated guys who would not dance with me at the clubs. They would dance with a range of women, so I know it was not because of my level of dancing. At first, I thought it was just a social thing, they wanted to dance with other friends. But after a while, it was hurtful. They were wonderful in private, but out at the club, they were not attentive. Obviously I am not dating these men anymore, and have learned my lesson.

Those guys sound like players to me. Bastards. Don't feel bad, hello. They're not worth a dime.

T_E

[cornutt]

Yep, playas all the way. I can spot their type from a mile off. Not worth your time.

[Shooshoo]

Yep, playas all the way. I can spot their type from a mile off.

You can? I can't :( , so I assume all the players until proven otherwise.

[deewoman]

I dont know if this was meant to be "mean" or something, but someone said to me in mid dance "This song is so long." I didnt really think about what she said, but I just said, "Yea it is, my quads are killing me (it was a grind for like 4 minutes non-stop and they were real sore) then laughed it off. So any of you had some awkward/mean comments your partners gave you while you were dancing?


I guess this wasn't mean, but I didn't think it was very nice. Someone I was dancing waltz with said , "that was a develope' opportunity." I mentioned it to my group class teacher, and she said if he'd led it using contrabody motion like he should I'd have recognized it for what it was.

[hello]

You can? I can't :( , so I assume all the players until proven otherwise.

It's a fine line to walk: I try not to judge other people by their first impressions, but I try not to be naive either. Funny, I did stay away from these guys at first, but over time, and certain circumstances, I gave them a chance, and still got burned! Interesting, one infamous player would flirt with my friend, and ignored me, so I thought he didn't like me. But one night about 9 months after I met him, he approached me in a very positive and seemingly sincere manner. I did see a very human side of him, he shared a lot of meaningful and personal information with me. That's what sucked me in! Well, never again. :headwall:

[wooh]

"that was a develope' opportunity."
I was having back problems for a while and worst part was I basically couldn't kick my left leg. Both my husband and dance teacher well aware of that, and reminded quite frequently when they'd forget. But they'd try leading me into "develope opportunities" constantly. So that would fall under probably meanest things done to me middance (and 1/3 in and 1/4 in and to end it and usually walking off the floor too. Stupid men!) (And I'm totally stealing that phrase, hmmm..."Oh crap, I missed a develope opportunity!" "Thanks so much for the develope opportunity!" Bwahahaha!!)

[MacMoto]

It was a mambo/salsa and it must ahev lasted 5 minutes.
I thought 5 minutes was a normal length for a song :p.

When I went to a milonga, it felt strange that songs were soooo short. You have a wee walk, you start getting used to the lead, and the song's over. No wonder AT people dance three in a row with the same person...

[Twilight_Elena]

I thought 5 minutes was a normal length for a song

Over here, our DJ plays songs that last 2-3 minutes. *shrug* Competitive style. :lol:

T_E

[SPratt74]

I thought 5 minutes was a normal length for a song :p.


That is a normal length for a song lol. I was trying to find a short song for my Swing dance this coming weekend, and that was like pulling teeth. The maximum length he wanted was two minutes, and I was lucky that I found one that was a little above two minutes, which ended up working very well actually.

[amrimi]

I thought 5 minutes was a normal length for a song :p.

When I went to a milonga, it felt strange that songs were soooo short. You have a wee walk, you start getting used to the lead, and the song's over. No wonder AT people dance three in a row with the same person...

In my salsa scene people still dance threes in a row with the same person even so the songs last 5 minutes each.

[thespina13]

That's really regional. I hear they do that in Denver too. Oot here in Iowa (I know it's really happening), two songs is usually the max, and that's not consistent either. Even so, I still can't get one guy to dance with me. He insists it's because of my height. I dunno though...

[SPratt74]

That's really regional. I hear they do that in Denver too. Oot here in Iowa (I know it's really happening), two songs is usually the max, and that's not consistent either. Even so, I still can't get one guy to dance with me. He insists it's because of my height. I dunno though...

Hey I used to live in Iowa! That's cool!

How tall are you? Sometimes height is an issue. I didn't realize it until I had that problem myself. Although, the cool thing is that I'm not to tall and I'm not to short, so I can dance with both tall and short people lol. All I have to do really is just bend my knees, which in some dances you have to do anyways.

[Zaratustra shaking it]

No wonder AT people dance three in a row with the same person...

three?? I would say 6 or so.

[jhpark]

Oooh, curse those lying websites that claim that in BA, absolutely everyone without exception stops dancing at the cortina and everyone switches partners...

Liars.

:)

[Whirling Dervish]

I would have to say the meanest thing anyone ever said to me mid dance was, "You know, we should rethink this getting married business."

Gak! Lol!

[latingal]

I got this one from a total stranger: "you're a really good dancer, but will you let me lead?"

Ooowwww! My comeback to my girlfriends later was: "hey I pay my pro good money to tell me that, unpaid commentators need not apply"

[latingal]

I would have to say the meanest thing anyone ever said to me mid dance was, "You know, we should rethink this getting married business."

Ooouuch! That one hurts....

[Whirling Dervish]

It did hurt, but it turned out to be one of the best things that happened to me that year. He married someone else two months later (!) then left her as soon as she got pregnant. I think it was about a year down the road.

He lived with his mother after that. Still does at 44.

[Joe]

Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet.

[Twilight_Elena]

Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet.

Definitely. The guy sounds like a really bad apple.

T_E

[SPratt74]

Definitely. The guy sounds like a really bad apple.

T_E

Exactly! But sometimes you have to experience the bad things in life to appreciate the good! ;)