How many dances with the same partner?

[pygmalion]

I found this on another board, and find it interesting. The person who posted has done some travel, and found that, in the US, it's customary to dance one dance with each partner. In Europe, two dances is customary. And in Australia, three dances. Question: What do you prefer? And how rude is it to break the local convention in either direction? Is it considered rude to give one partner too many dances? Too few?

[SDsalsaguy]

I can't answer this, as it depends on the partner! There are some who I would love an extra dance or two with as a "normal" manner of things and other where one ends up being more than enough.

[Sagitta]

There is what is customary, and as SDSalsa says, what feels right. Also if a follow asks me if she can have another dance I oblige. If I start dancing with a person in the middle of a song I usually ask the same person for another dance. I usually do one dance per follow as that is what is customary, and people now recognize that is what I do. I have a friend who would like to dance with me more often, but knows that is what I do. I also enjoy the experience of dancing with different people. :) If I'm having a great time I will do maybe a couple dances with a follow, but that's about it. Oh, I thought of another situation as well. If I persuade a non-dancer to come with me to a dance I do spend quite a few dances with her. I think that's right!! However, I also pair her up with others, too. :twisted: I have my ways.

Now in India for the dances that I have gone (such as, x/mas ball, and new years dance) there definitely would be a lot more dances with the person I go with, and strangers don't usually ask anyone to dance like in the States. However, if people know each other or get acquanited with each other by sitting at the same table/ close together that does open the door.

[youngsta]

I'm with SD, totally depends on who it is and the cirumstances.

[jenibelle]

I agree; it totally depends....some guys I could dance all night with...and some others I'd like to call it quits after half the song...lol!

Jeni

[Vince A]

I agree with SD, and since I'm an American . . . I voted for and support the American tradition!

[NeoDevin]

Are we talking in a row, or over the course of the night?

[Danish Guy]

Yes, we talked in a row.



I voted for the European tradition, dancing 2 (or 1½) dances.

I don’t mind 3 dances if there’s the right connection, but 3 dances with everybody leave not enough time to dance with the different followers.

And you can quit after dance nr 1 without insulting your partner.

[NeoDevin]

Then I go with usually not more than 2 in a row.

[pygmalion]

I'm American, but I think I prefer the two dance rule -- one dance often isn't enough, but three would be torture with some partners. :shock: :lol:

[MNswing]

I agree; it totally depends....some guys I could dance all night with...and some others I'd like to call it quits after half the song...lol!

Jeni

ditto

[MadamSamba]

Yeah, it definitely depends. I don't know who's telling you the Aussie tradition is three dances, but one or two is pretty much the norm...unless you WANT to dance more, which, I suspect, is the case everywhere...you're not obliged to dance for more than one dance, though two is typical.

Ironically, I just posted this (http://www.dance-forums.com/viewtopic.php?p=16925#16925) thread, which is kinda related. It's about how many dances is too many and how to decline if someone's trying to book every dance.

Of course, all this theory goes out the window if the guy's a hottie who can dance... :lol:

[pygmalion]

I was hoping you'd answer this one, because a three dance tradition sounds a bit much to me. I wonder where that guy was, and whether he had a unique experience. Hmm.

And I'm with you. If I'm dancing with a hottie, all bets are of! :lol: :lol:

[MadamSamba]

He, he, he!!! Great minds, Jenn...great minds! :)

[salsachinita]

Yeah, it definitely depends. I don't know who's telling you the Aussie tradition is three dances, but one or two is pretty much the norm...unless you WANT to dance more, which, I suspect, is the case everywhere...you're not obliged to dance for more than one dance, though two is typical.

Ironically, I just posted this (http://www.dance-forums.com/viewtopic.php?p=16925#16925) thread, which is kinda related. It's about how many dances is too many and how to decline if someone's trying to book every dance.

Of course, all this theory goes out the window if the guy's a hottie who can dance... :lol:

I'm sure this '3 dances for Aussie' guy didn't come to Melb or Sydney!

We used to dance two songs in a row to be polite/norm but these days the second one is optional. But with close friends/good partners three/four in a row is cool. I'm starting to do more of this :D !

*how did I miss this thread in the first place :? ?*

[SDsalsaguy]

*how did I miss this thread in the first place :? ?*
Me thinks I detect a pattern here . . . :wink:

[salsachinita]

*how did I miss this thread in the first place :? ?*
Me thinks I detect a pattern here . . . :wink:

:lol: :lol: :lol:
Maybe I should start a "Late-in-thread" club :wink: :roll: !

[SDsalsaguy]

Perhaps . . . but still better late then never! :D

[Sagitta]

*how did I miss this thread in the first place :? ?*
Me thinks I detect a pattern here . . . :wink:

I noticed it too!! :) :wink:

Maybe I should start a "Late-in-thread" club !

I nominate salsachinita for the Dance Forums "Better-Late-Then-Never" cheerleader, to encourage all those out there who hesitate to post in threads of interest that are somewhat older threads!!! You are not committing a cardinal sin!!!! :)

[pygmalion]

Yay, salsachinita! :notworth: I think it's great to have people that appreciate those elderly threads. Just because the conversation was started a while ago, doesn't mean newcomers to the thread shouldn't have their say. Everybody's of value here. :D

[salsachinita]

:banana: Title proudly accepted, guys! :banana:

-----signed: Official Cheerleader of Better-Late-Than-Never Club :wink:

[pygmalion]

Yay salsachinita! You go, girl! (emoticons temporarily missing, but will insert something appropriately cheery later LOL!)