I have a crush on my dance partner

[nycsalsero]

We started practicing together just a couple of weeks ago, but we're set to be practicing at least four times a week for many hours. She and her previous latin partner still practice together and they used to date but she says they broke up recently. I suspect she also has a crush on me, but I could be dead wrong about that.

Anyway in general is it best to just ignore these feelings I have? Will all this unbearable sexual tension simply make our dancing better? :D


('m competing in salsa competitions but I wanted to ask this question here because my partner was an american rhythm style dancer before, and people here are probably more used to the idea of a single practice partner)

[LenaB]

Take it easy buddy!

[Another Elizabeth]

In my experience (my own and talking to others), it is normal to develop a crush on your dance partner when you start dancing together. Give it at least a month, and then see if you still feel interested. If so, you can think about whether to explore the possibility with her.

[noobster]

She and her previous latin partner still practice together and they used to date but she says they broke up recently. I suspect she also has a crush on me, but I could be dead wrong about that.

Anyway in general is it best to just ignore these feelings I have? Will all this unbearable sexual tension simply make our dancing better?

1) If the feelings are not mutual, and you come out with this confession after only two weeks of dancing together, you can wave goodbye to that professional partnership.

2) She just broke up with her bf recently and they are still practicing together? Not a good time to step in.

Keep it under your hat for now. Re-evaluate in three to six months.

[Sagitta]

Looks as if it could be a possible re-bound, if something happens. Too soon after her breakup with bf. I wouldn't do anything for a while just because of that.

[samina]

yeah, i agree, salsero... let this continue to evolve... or dissolve, as the case may be... crushes can come on & then move on before you know it.

if this is a "real thing", it's not something either of you will be able to avoid. if it's just an enjoyable projection... i'm sure you'll be relieved to not have acted prematurely... :)

[ptide]

2) She just broke up with her bf recently and they are still practicing together? Not a good time to step in.


Yeah honestly if she is still dancing with her old partner, then she's not over him yet. If she's into the cycle of breaking up and making up with boyfriends.. then she's gonna be a heartbreaker.

She may also be playing games and flirting with you to make her ex jealous and want her back.

Simply if I were you, I'd give it a few months.. in the meanwhile don't nurture this crush, get to know her first.

[Sagitta]

Actually i don't see the issue of not being intimate, but still dancing/practicing with someone. I've seen it work just fine.

[Genesius Redux]

I agree with what others are saying. It's totally normal to get a crush on your dance partner--you'll see after a while whether the feelings are still there. I have to say, though, that my own experience has made me a little bit wary of getting involved with people I dance with. Great performance is, as you say, about tension. Maybe you ought to go out and have a really wild fling, wait for things to settle down and *then* start to dance again.

Cheers,

GR

[fascination]

I might also add that we have numerous lengthy and detailed threads on this if you will do a search...I recommend using the word crush

[Nik]

It will make the dancing better as you will practice longer and be nicer to each other. Don't do anything just yet, I would recommend waiting a little bit untill you dance a little more and get used to eachother, otherwise the dancing will be ruined as that will just become a chance to be close to eachother and not practicing your dancing.