What Would You Ask Her Not To Do?

[Vince A]

This kinda goes with Phil Owl's "Pet Peeves" topic, but I'm trying to get more specific . . .

Guys . . . if you were out on the dance floor with a woman . . . discounting her dance abilities and looks . . . what would you ask her not to do if that opportunity to do, would come up?

Ladies . . . you are more than welcome to reverse the question . . what would you ask the men not to do???

[MapleLeaf Salsero]

Leave the Tasmanian devil personality at home... :wink:

[Vince A]

I should number these, as that just might be number 1.

But remember . . . your already ON the dance fllor, so if she brought it with her??? Now what???

[peachexploration]

From me to guys: Dip, Double Dip but please do not over dip. Excessive dipping during a song is not allowed. :x :D

[Vince A]

Ah . . . the old Double Dip 'er Move. I usually don't dip a follow unless I've danced with her at least once before to see how she controls herself. I can understand though, if she does lose control while dancing me :roll:

[salsachinita]

For me, I'd ask the guys not to over spin! I suck at really fast, multiple spins anyway, but I truly hate it when it's done to me while the music didn't ask for it (neither did I :wink: )! Excessive spin....aaarrrrgh!

I like to 'warm' to the song with the partner (if we've never danced before) before being put through spins/tricks/dips (ok, I love dips, but you need to know each other first).

I also don't like the guys mucking around with my head/neck with tricks like neck drops.......that kinda stuff are usually not club-floor-friendly :roll: !

(oh, a littel thing for newbies; plz do not attempt tricks until you've got the basics/on beat......nothing worse than fancy tricks excuted badly & off-beat!)

[danceguy]

Don't try and be the leader. :roll:
Don't try and be the leader! :evil:
Don't try and be the *!@#&(!@#!**&% leader!!!!!! :shock:

Please do not be overly critical of everything a leader does, especially if he is a beginner. I had to almost yell at a lady once to get her to realize just how much she was being a tryrant about this. (she's been sweet ever since!)

Don't let your arms drop, give your partner some TENSION! :P

[twnkltoz]

Don't try to "accidentally" cop a feel. You're not clever. We're on to you.

Etiquette when at a dance with a teacher:

Don't ask me to 'critique' you or give you 'pointers' unless you're going to leave $50 on the dresser afterward. This is a SOCIAL dance!!!

Feel free to ask them to dance, but don't monopolize their time. Everyone wants to dance with them.

Don't ask them to teach you a step. Quickly show you something you learned in class as a reminder, or a quick question is fine. If it takes longer than a minute, it's not fine unless they offer. Most teachers are there to socialize and maybe troll for prospective students. They are usually not paid for their time at the social dances. If you meet a doctor in the park, would you ask him to give you an exam?

This has already been covered, but double so here: don't criticize their dancing. It's incredibly rude and in this case you're probably wrong and now look stupid.

Sorry if any of that was too direct. It's midnight, my husband won't stop snoring, the couch is covered in laundry, so I can't sleep

[NeoDevin]

Simple solution... shove the laundry onto the floor ;)

[bordertangoman]

don't do the 'automatic' forward ocho.......

the number of times that there has been a crunch of knee caps colliding
as she assumes a lead that hasn't been led.

:doh: ouch :doh:

[KevinL]

I would ask women to maintain tone in their arms, and therefore maintain their frame. I've noticed that several of my female students have been holding too tightly, and even pinching my thumb between their thumb and forefinger. That grip makes it very hard to lead turns, or change my grip, so I also ask that they don't grip so tightly, or with their thumbs. (Luckily I notice during class when I can correct them as much as I want, 8^).) I think that what they are doing is that they are trying to hold on so that they can follow leads, not realizing that if they maintained good frame, but a loose grip, that the dancing would be easier.


Etiquette when at a dance with a teacher:

Don't ask me to 'critique' you or give you 'pointers' unless you're going to leave $50 on the dresser afterward. This is a SOCIAL dance!!!

Feel free to ask them to dance, but don't monopolize their time. Everyone wants to dance with them.

Don't ask them to teach you a step.

This is all good advice, thanks twnkltoz. I generally like dancing with everyone, and sometimes I'll try things that I don't think that the follower has been exposed to before. If they get it, great, we continue dancing. If they miss it it's my fault, so if they ask I'll show them breifly what I wanted to happen.

Kevin

[cl5814]

I'll agree with salsachinita that i want to warm up for the first few seconds of a song........ let's just do basics and figure out the beat/time of the song. Then we can move on to better/more advanced things if the leader chooses to.

I'll add, if the dance evolves into a discussion/conversation, then please leaders, lead basic steps, not the most advanced steps you know. I think most of us can concentrate on one thing at a time and still do it well.

[SDsalsaguy]

Put on skin moisturizer just before dancing! :x

Yes, yes, yes... I know you want your skin to be all nice and smooth and what not... but making yourself slippery just before you want to dance with a partner is *not* a good idea! And, no, I don't care that you wiped your hands off afterwards, they're still slippery!!!

[salsachinita]

Put on skin moisturizer just before dancing! :x

:evil: Agree! I danced with a GUY last week who did that :x !

[msc]

Along the lines of SDSalsa, don't let the hand slip. It's the lady's responsibility to maintain pressure into the man's hand (whether with her hand or with her rib cage) at all times.

[KevinL]

Put on skin moisturizer just before dancing! :x

Yes, yes, yes... I know you want your skin to be all nice and smooth and what not... but making yourself slippery just before you want to dance with a partner is *not* a good idea! And, no, I don't care that you wiped your hands off afterwards, they're still slippery!!!

Earlier this week before class a lady put on hand lotion, but accidently squirted out to much. As she rubbed it into her hands it looked like she was wearing white gloves! The other 6-8 people in class all helped her out by taking some of it off her hands, but then we were all slippery. Very funny!!

Kevin

[volleybgrl]

Don't leave me in an open shine for too long. I know the guys are supposed to call it quits, but c'mon...I've been there for most of the song and they just stand there! Guys: know that a snap back or a hop forward into a CBL means that she's done....time to partner up! :D

[tsb]

Guys . . . if you were out on the dance floor with a woman . . . discounting her dance abilities and looks . . . what would you ask her not to do if that opportunity to do, would come up?

her are some of my favorites:
- not "connect" with me at the start of the dance either physically and/or attention-wise (in class rotation, be talking to someone else while i'm waiting to dance that rotation) or otherwise convey lack of interest;
- perform the vulcan nerve pinch with her hand on my hand or shoulder/her armpit on my forearm/wrist;
- keep apologizing or otherwise obsess about dancing 'correctly';
- critique me w/o invitation (yeah, i might deserve it, but still...);
- relinquish all responsibility for supporting her own weight during dips & cortes (especially taking one or both feet off the floor);
- sing off-key to the music;