Dating your competition partner?

[SwingWaltz]

Who has dated/got into a relationship with your competition partner?
What is your experience and stories, the ups and downs you found?

I am seriously looking in it as an options due to the fact that I don't have time to go out in between Uni (medical research 50hr a week) and dance training (soon to be open level competitor 10hr a week).

Having said this, I'm not thinking about my current partner because we are due to find a new partner soon. So future partners....

[nucat78]

I don't compete but I'd think it would be like dating a business partner. Not by definition a bad thing, but could you keep your feelings out of it if and when necessary? That would take a couple of pretty mature individuals.

But since I only have a practice partner for tango until I relocate, who am I to say?

[BM]

We've got a bunch of threads on this, check some out . . .

http://danceforums.com/showthread.php?t=23329&highlight=date+dance+partner

http://danceforums.com/showthread.php?t=19560&highlight=date+dance+partner

http://danceforums.com/showthread.php?t=13876&highlight=date+dance+partner

http://danceforums.com/showthread.php?t=17187&highlight=date+dance+partner

I guess my response would be to discourage it, but not rule it out. However, I would NOT linclude "datability" in my criteria for a new dance partner. That sounds like it would just make the hunt even more impossible than it already can be.

[QPO]

I am married to mine ;-), it would depend on how you set the ground rules as long as you both agree, so no-one gets hurt feelings.

[etp777]

Hrmmm, maybe this is a good reason for me to finally find a competitionpartner. ;)

[WaltzElf]

Rule of thumb is don’t. It can (and more often than not, does) lead to tragedy, and almost any coach will strongly discourage their couples dating (assuming they’re not coming into dance as a married/ dating couple etc etc).

On the other hand emotions like that can’t be helped. I was deeply in love with a partner, and the girl I’m dancing with now is stunning and fun. If there’s the option to date, I’ll take it. But I’d also very seriously consider ending the dancing side of the partnership if that happened.

[Laura]

I think I'd like to try it sometime.

[fascination]

lol...not single but I think I WOULDN'T

[sambanada]

I am married, but would imagine it can also make the connection better in dancing. On the other hand, if it breaks, it can end the partnership.

[quixotedlm]

Rule of thumb is don’t. It can (and more often than not, does) lead to tragedy, and almost any coach will strongly discourage their couples dating (assuming they’re not coming into dance as a married/ dating couple etc etc).

On the other hand emotions like that can’t be helped. I was deeply in love with a partner, and the girl I’m dancing with now is stunning and fun. If there’s the option to date, I’ll take it. But I’d also very seriously consider ending the dancing side of the partnership if that happened.

rules of thumbs (http://www.idiomsite.com/ruleofthumb.htm) are anti-feminist aka mcp :)

this is probably the most discussed topic (except perhaps on1 vs on2 salsa threads.. ;)) amongst dancers, and the bottomline is that there is no easy consensus. People do it all the time, and when you get burned, you get burned really bad (and on the other hand, if it works well, it is really really fun). So it is like a high-risk venture - potential for both high risks and high losses.

Life is too short to worry about this - just do it.

[QPO]

I agree, cant worry about all that interplay, but always remain respectful


rules of thumbs (http://www.idiomsite.com/ruleofthumb.htm) are anti-feminist aka mcp :)



Life is too short to worry about this - just do it.

[nucat78]

the bottomline is that there is no easy consensus. People do it all the time, and when you get burned, you get burned really bad (and on the other hand, if it works well, it is really really fun). So it is like a high-risk venture - potential for both high risks and high losses.

Well said!

[SwingWaltz]

I guess life is about making decisions and taking risks (wisely of course, not jackass risks). I guess it's like making an investment, if it goes bad, it really burns, but if it goes good then it's really awesome.

But heck, we only live once. No guts, no glory!

[nucat78]

Seems like dancing itself. If you set a goal that you will be more than a tolerable social dancer, you're likely to be investing an awful lot of money into it for a certainly not guaranteed payoff, whether it's winning comps or whatever.

[etp777]

I know somee competitve couples who've dated, broken off dating part, and continued to compete (and do well). But as quix said, there's certainly a risk involved.

[Imhere]

Maks and Tony talk about Dancing and dating.

part 1
http://www.brightcove.tv/title.jsp?title=879589687&channel=507838215

part 2
http://www.brightcove.tv/title.jsp?title=900480490&channel=507838215

part 3

http://www.brightcove.tv/title.jsp?title=909933546&channel=507838215


Maks is all sort of cute here.