How do you end your dances?

[MadamSamba]

You've danced with someone and it was nice, but it's over and you're ready to move on.

What do you say at the end of a dance? If I enjoyed it, I'll say, "thank you, that was lovely", if not, I'll say "thank you for the dance". What does everyone else say?

Also, how do you handle someone who wants to dance again and again and again with you and won't let you go?

[squirrel]

At the end, I just say 'Thank you very much', and sometimes I add: 'It was a pleasure dancing with you' or 'You're a super dancer' as the case may be:)

To those who just won't let go, I just say 'Thank you' when I want out of there... if they insist I either tell them that song is reserved for someone else, or that my feet hurt, or that I have to have a drink or use the restrooms.... it all depends on the guy!

[Flat Shoes]

Doing Lindy, like the dance itself I'm all very informal. Sometimes just 'thanks', sometimes only a smile (usually when the dance has been fast and the connection great... no need for words), and sometimes some comment that seems to fit the moment and the dance or maybe something we talked about while dancing. Sometimes we walk of together talking.

It all depends, no rules. :)

Oh yeah, if I want to end a dance I just say that I need a break. And this is 99% of the times the honest truth.

[cocodrilo]

Doing Lindy, like the dance itself I'm all very informal. Sometimes just 'thanks', sometimes only a smile (usually when the dance has been fast and the connection great... no need for words), and sometimes some comment that seems to fit the moment and the dance or maybe something we talked about while dancing. Sometimes we walk of together talking.

It all depends, no rules. :)

Oh yeah, if I want to end a dance I just say that I need a break. And this is 99% of the times the honest truth.

Same here for me dancing salsa, merengue, etc. A simple "Thanks!", or a smile works just fine!

[Flat Shoes]

Oh yeah, if I want to end a dance I just say that I need a break. And this is 99% of the times the honest truth.

I see my english failed me a bit here... I ment end dancing, like in between two dances. :D

[salsachinita]

I usually end with a 'thanks!' and smile. If the guy and I are good friends, we might end up doing more songs together, but I always ask if they need a break, so that I don't end up hogging them. There are usually girls sitting out songs :roll: ........the gender-imblance factor really sucks....

I generally like it if a guy is clear on whether he'd like to continue dancing the next song or not. Afterall, there are only a few seconds available to find your next dance partner.......you don't want to waste that chance to grab someone else, if the guy you danced with takes a loooong time to make up his mind :roll: !

[cocodrilo]

Some Japanese guys here shake my hand. Nice, but formal. Some South American guys try & kiss me(cheek, it's OK). Salsahog might go for a full-frontal grope :shock:

[Flat Shoes]

Some Japanese guys here shake my hand. Nice, but formal. Some South American guys try & kiss me(cheek, it's OK). Salsahog might go for a full-frontal grope :shock:

I've been hugged a couple of times. But since Lindy can be a quite sweaty affair, I let the girls initiate that one. And I do love it, I take it as a huge compliment when the girl wants to hug me even though I'm practically dripping :D

[squirrel]

guys sometimes kiss my hand... or we hug, if we know each other well... kissing is very rare... :)
cocodrilo, I'm not sure I'd like to be 'groped'... actually, I would really hate it! and I think we're giving too much attention to this guy, the salsahog... he also posted a topic on the forum from www.tosalsa.com and he was all the same! said someting about the fact that women shouldn't invite men to dance, since it challenges their masculinity... grrr... horrible...

[Sabor]

if the girl is pretty .. i'll let her kiss me :P

if the girl is not pretty.. i'll kiss her :wink:

[squirrel]

and do you enjoy kissing non-pretty girls?! :roll:

[MacMoto]

Depending on how the dance went, I may end it with:
"Thank you" + smile,
"Thank you" + smile + a squeeze of a hand or pat on the back, depending on where my hands are at the end of the dance :wink:,
"Thank you, I enjoyed that" + smile + squeeze/pat, or
"Thank you, that was great!" + big grin + hug or kiss on the cheek.

To beginners (who tend to keep apologising throughout the song), I may say something like "stop apologising! It wasn't bad at all", "you are getting better" and "keep practising" in addition to "thank you" + smile + hand squeeze.

Guys don't usually try to dance more than 2 songs in a row, I don't usually have to worry about guys who wouldn't let me go. When it did happen, I just said "no -- maybe later? Thanks" with a smile.

[Sabor]

and do you enjoy kissing non-pretty girls?! :roll:

outside beauty is only skin deep squirrel.. if she gives me the feeling i look for.. she is beautiful to me no matter how where on the pretty scale she is :).. i look at the soul .. and i can see

quote: "To watch us dance, is to hear our hearts speak" :wink:

[squirrel]

:) I know beauty is in the eye of the watcher... still, beauty is the first way one chooses one's mates :D

of course, salsa isn't about mating... if it were, i'd run from it with 100 miles per hour :lol:

[Sabor]

:) I know beauty is in the eye of the watcher... still, beauty is the first way one chooses one's mates :D

of course, salsa isn't about mating... if it were, i'd run from it with 100 miles per hour :lol:

wow! :shock: ..u can run that fast!?! pretty impressive! :lol: .. u must be just too beautiful huh? :wink:

[squirrel]

don't know how beautiful I am... I tend to get different feedback from different men...

but if you like hot-tempered, blue-eyed, brownish-haired gals who are not so tall and live each day as if it were the last... then yes, i am beautiful...

otherwise...

[KevinL]

As the music ends, I release my right hand from her back. I lower my left hand, and briefly place her right hand in my right hand. I turn to my right, thus leading the lady to her left, as I place my left arm over her right arm, allowing her to take my arm as we walk off the floor. "Thank you for the dance, it was lovely.", and I smile.

Kevin

[etchuck]

Usually an underarm turn, thank you, and walk off the floor. Would otherwise try to escort off the floor, but that doesn't always happen.

If it's someone I know, usually a leaning dip instead of an UAT.

[salsachinita]

As the music ends, I release my right hand from her back. I lower my left hand, and briefly place her right hand in my right hand. I turn to my right, thus leading the lady to her left, as I place my left arm over her right arm, allowing her to take my arm as we walk off the floor. "Thank you for the dance, it was lovely.", and I smile.

:D This is beautiful :D ...........

[jdavidb]

I tell her, "now get outta my bed". Just kiddin'. I ask her if she's got plans for breakfast.

[danceguy]

Hmm, I always thank the lady, no matter how bad or good the dance goes. I'm not very confident with dips, so I usually end with a few turns or whatever the mood calls for....a sweetheart move is usually nice.

If the dance goes really good, I may ask her for another dance...usually I can tell if they want to or not. Last night I had a great dance with this really spunky girl and she was laughing (in a good way) and was so much fun to dance with, she actually made eye contact with me and man did it add some spice to our dancing. :D

I asked her to dance a few times during the night (she picked up Bachata really quick)...but on the last one I gave her hand a little squeeze and thanked her again...she's definitely on my "A List" next time I'm at the club. ;)

SG

[Sagitta]

In terms of last dance move. Often a spin or two into a cuddle, or a cuddle, or a small dip.

Verbal ending I say "thanks". Then whatever else I do depends on whom I dance with. A beginner who follows really well, a compliment of "you're a natural" with a big happy smile, a beginner who was all over the place and looks miserable because she refused to relax, "I'd like to dance a merengue with you later on..., in the hopes of getting a smile onto her face then, a person whom I know...almost always a hug, and with some usually two dances

I've had some who just want to keep on dancing when I don't. I stop it by saying something like "Thanks for the 2 dances/3 dances..." so they know how much I've danced, and if they ask me for another I say "no thanks, perhaps later on".

Unfortunately, I don't always have enough time to walk a lady of the dance floor. :( I do it when I can.

[Flat Shoes]

As the music ends, I release my right hand from her back. I lower my left hand, and briefly place her right hand in my right hand. I turn to my right, thus leading the lady to her left, as I place my left arm over her right arm, allowing her to take my arm as we walk off the floor. "Thank you for the dance, it was lovely.", and I smile.


Sometimes I send the lady into a free spin and quickly exits the other way... :twisted: :twisted:

[Vince A]

If I know the lady, I will free-spin her (left shoulder back spin) into me, catching her on the middle-back with my right hand fingertips, dipping her ever-so-slightly. If I know her well, and she is one of those ones that I have ocassional-sex-on-the-dance-floor-with, I dip her to an extreme!

I always walk the lady back to her seat and say, "thank you." If she gets asked to again dance before we get to her seat, I say, "thank you" at that point.

If I get asked to dance before we get to her seat, I will tell the lady that asked me to dance, "I'll be right back." And at a minimum, I will escort the first lady to the edge of the dance floor, then say, "thank you," and return to the lady who is breathlessly :roll: awaiting my return.

[Genesius Redux]

Like Kevin, I walk my partner off the floor by the hand. If I liked dancing with her, I'll usually ask, "Save me another dance later?" If I didn't, I'll usually just smile and thank her for the dance.

I've never had someone pester me--I think that's mostly something guys do, and where I dance, it's usually the guy who does the asking.

[cocodrilo]

guys sometimes kiss my hand... or we hug, if we know each other well... kissing is very rare... :)
cocodrilo, I'm not sure I'd like to be 'groped'... actually, I would really hate it! and I think we're giving too much attention to this guy, the salsahog... he also posted a topic on the forum from www.tosalsa.com and he was all the same! said someting about the fact that women shouldn't invite men to dance, since it challenges their masculinity... grrr... horrible...

The kisses I get are "pecks on the cheek", apparently a custom in some South American countries, or at least in the circle of people I dance with. I KNOW the guys that kiss me after a dance(fortunately)! :wink: As for a grope, no one has ever had the audacity to attempt that with me. I think most guys are fully aware of how a 3" heel would feel going swifly into the groin :shock:

[10Dancer]

I'm glad there are still men who escort the lady off of the dance floor. It is a very small gesture that can make someone else feel very special. Personally, I feel there is not enough of it. I can social dance for three hours on a Saturday and maybe have it happen once or twice. Cheers to all of you that do this. :D

As for me, I always make sure to thank my partner, always.

[tsb]

Like Kevin, I walk my partner off the floor by the hand. If I liked dancing with her, I'll usually ask, "Save me another dance later?" If I didn't, I'll usually just smile and thank her for the dance.


ditto


I've never had someone pester me--I think that's mostly something guys do, and where I dance, it's usually the guy who does the asking.

i've had a few leech on for various reasons. i have a standing agreement with a couple of guys i hang with: we come and rescue by asking the "leech" to dance, kinda like tag teaming in big time "rasslin".

but otherwise it's generally the guys who try to mark their territory...

[brujo]

of course, salsa isn't about mating... if it were, i'd run from it with 100 miles per hour :lol:

Nah, most people in the salsa scene are attached. Not mating, but stranger assisted foreplay for lazy boyfriends...

[squirrel]

:) maybe, BUT:

1. if salsa - related events are one's only socialising habit, then the probability of 'mating' within salsa is HUGE!

2. foreplay, yes, but one should be careful not to want more... since...

3. ... guys make love as they dance - not as good or bad, but the leading style on the dancefloor resembles a lot the way they make love... true, girls?!

[bordertangoman]

and do you enjoy kissing non-pretty girls?! :roll:

A gentleman will offer his seat to a lady.
And if she is not a lady?
A gentleman will not distinguish between who is lady and who is not.

I think this may apply here. (Rules of Chivalry and suchlike)

[squirrel]

hmmm... gentlemen... very few lately... I wonder why?! :roll:

I know a few gentlemen... they're of course my best friends... on and off the dance floor :)

[Flat Shoes]

hmmm... gentlemen... very few lately... I wonder why?! :roll:



Ohh... there are several reasons. And they are all related to the fact that being a gentleman is not appreciated very much, in several ways.

First there's womens liberation. Many, not all, but many women react negatively to those old fasion gentleman tasks like opening doors, holding out a chair etc. They see it as a treat to their independence. :evil:

Good guys don't get much action. Women say they want a gentleman, but still they almost always go for the bad guys. :?

And it's out of fashion. :P


I know a few gentlemen... they're of course my best friends... on and off the dance floor :)

Exactly... that's were the good guys end up... as friends :!:

[squirrel]

i think you're mistaking 'good guys' and 'gentlemen'...
some gentlemen are good guys, but not all... of course, all good guys are gentlemen :)
women go mostly for men who make them feel insecure... men who are not boring...
good guys have the tendency of being quite boring...

[Flat Shoes]

i think you're mistaking 'good guys' and 'gentlemen'...
some gentlemen are good guys, but not all... of course, all good guys are gentlemen :)


I think you gave my answer for me. :D


women go mostly for men who make them feel insecure... men who are not boring...
good guys have the tendency of being quite boring...

Something I find hard to believe. Well... in the light of what women (in general) watch on TV.... maybe not. Because women (still in general) tend to eat up everything where there's a lot for personal conflicts. Granted, a good guy won't give you all these ups and downs. :twisted:

Personally I think there's another element to this. Good guys care about the people around them. That makes them take more care about how they act. While the bad boys don't give a damn. And I think women tend to confuse this behaviour with being confident and secure. :roll:

But anyways, the good guys who are gentlemenn get less action than the bad boys who are not gentlemenn .... so tell me again, why should we be gentlemen? :twisted:

[squirrel]

:) who said you should be gentlemen?!

and maybe the bad guys tend to get more action, as you put it, but nice guys get more quality action... which is more important, quality or quantity?!

[cocodrilo]

:) maybe, BUT:

1. if salsa - related events are one's only socialising habit, then the probability of 'mating' within salsa is HUGE!

2. foreplay, yes, but one should be careful not to want more... since...

3. ... guys make love as they dance - not as good or bad, but the leading style on the dancefloor resembles a lot the way they make love... true, girls?!]

Dunno about number 3. I don't sleep with the guys I dance with... :roll:

[ShyDancer]

I simply smile and thank them for the dance...and/or their patience and help if they taught me something new.

I have to say I LOVE when I get spun at the end of a dance, then led off the floor,its like the cherry on top of a sundae :wink:

[squirrel]

:) maybe, BUT:

1. if salsa - related events are one's only socialising habit, then the probability of 'mating' within salsa is HUGE!

2. foreplay, yes, but one should be careful not to want more... since...

3. ... guys make love as they dance - not as good or bad, but the leading style on the dancefloor resembles a lot the way they make love... true, girls?!]

Dunno about number 3. I don't sleep with the guys I dance with... :roll:

to me, it happened... since I go out only in Salsa - related places... who else to meet... than salseros?!

[Flat Shoes]

:) who said you should be gentlemen?!


I think it was indicated up there somewhere. But it doesn't matter, since I'm gonna do what feels natural for me anyway. Sometimes that's being the gentleman. 8)


and maybe the bad guys tend to get more action, as you put it,


Isn't that a common way of putting it? (English is not my primary language.)


but nice guys get more quality action... which is more important, quality or quantity?!

BOTH! :twisted:

I couldn't tell about the quality compared to other guys, it's not like I query other guys about their sexual life (YUCK!), so I have to take your word for it. :D

[squirrel]

quality: more quality women... not the sex life, generally speaking...

maybe quality women fall for bad guys, but it's usually short...

PS. get action = it is correct, and English is not my native tongue either (I'm from Romania) :P

[Flat Shoes]

quality: more quality women... not the sex life, generally speaking...


That I can agree too. That's why I've never done the 'bad boy' act, or any other act for that matter. Luring women on false pretences will only postpone problems coming from not matching each other.

There are other ways 8)


maybe quality women fall for bad guys, but it's usually short...


But you see a lot of single parents these days. So it may be short, but it often leaves tell tale signs in the form of small noisy toddlers. :lol: (And too often it becomes up to the nice guys to take care of these.)



(I'm from Romania) :P


Romania has many beautiful women! One of the most beautiful women I have ever known was from Romania. :D

[squirrel]

Where did you meet the beautiful Romanian girl? And yes, there are very beautiful women in my country... :)

It's a mistake to have children by men who don't deserve to be fathers. Still, children have to be taken care of, 'cause it's not their fault they were born...

[Flat Shoes]

Where did you meet the beautiful Romanian girl? And yes, there are very beautiful women in my country... :)


I met her at the university, a lot of foreginers worked there and she as doing her PhD.


It's a mistake to have children by men who don't deserve to be fathers. Still, children have to be taken care of, 'cause it's not their fault they were born...

I totally agree!

[Sagitta]

It's a mistake to have children by men who don't deserve to be fathers. Still, children have to be taken care of, 'cause it's not their fault they were born... :? And this is supposed to mean....? I just got lost here!!

[Sagitta]

So, because I'm a gentleman, usually, I'm boring?

[Genesius Redux]

Wow--the last time I looked at this topic it was about how to end a dance, and now....

Good guys and bad guys.

The merits and drawbacks of being a gentleman.

Beautiful Romanian women.

Incidentally, I can also go for Romanian women. I think it's kind of a Dracula-thing....

Cheers,

Genesius

[Sagitta]

Wow--the last time I looked at this topic it was about how to end a dance, and now....

Good guys and bad guys.

The merits and drawbacks of being a gentleman.

Beautiful Romanian women.

Incidentally, I can also go for Romanian women. I think it's kind of a Dracula-thing....

Cheers,

Genesius

All topics related to ending dances. :wink: I go for all beautiful women - cannot see limiting myself just to the Romanian ones. Makes for a spicier dish!

[squirrel]

hijacked topic, once again!

PS Romanians are both beautiful and spicy!

[Sagitta]

hijacked topic, once again!

PS Romanians are both beautiful and spicy!

The best kind -- salsa and sabor!! :D

[squirrel]

:)) Come to Romania then...