A Dancers Envy

[PunkDancer]

I just moved a month ago and I am now at a new studio (they don't teach latin dance here). but this issue can still be a problem in all studios of all types of dance. Well new people are coming in now and there's a guy in that class(hiphop and jazz) who is skilled in gymnastics and cheer. But has no experience in dance. He's not bad at all. He picks up pretty fast but ever since he got there I have been getting bad vibes from him. He doesn't say hi or look at me. (He's real rude-but others don't see it!).

He is now trying advanced moves and is begging the instructor to give him my parts in a jazz dance. He now got my favorite one. :cry: I want to at least talk to him to get to know eachother but I don't think he'll be interested. He came in not likeing me at first site and now I feel uncomfortable dancing around him because he is always judging me and has this evil little smirk on his face like "I can do better, thats nothing!" :twisted: he's overly nice to every one else though. They all think he's sweet and ****. So every time I mention his attitude towards me they just say " No, may-be its you" like I am imagening it. I dont know what to do. He's someone I would normaly get a long with thats why I don't want no problems between us! ...<sigh> ......any sugestions?

[cocodrilo]

Umm...Maybe you could switch studios(and find one that has LATIN DANCE, too!) :wink:

[PunkDancer]

My mother and a few other family members teach latin dance and some dont any more. But that was the first type of dance I ever learned. I don't n really need a studio for that. I do a lot of it at home. I just want to be well rounded. So i take as much that interests me.

[cocodrilo]

But do you really want to be in the same studio with such an arrogant person? If I don't like the scene, I find a better one elsewhere. Have you looked into other studios?

[Vin]

You know what I have found to be a good way to deal with dancing ego's, ask him to teach you something. It willl give him the sense of superiority he is craving.
I do not see you two being friends though, I think that the best you can hope for here is civility between you two.

[SDsalsaguy]

...and that sooner or later his true colors will show through to the others as well.

[PunkDancer]

Hey thanks for the replys and VIN I think I will try what you said. It could work or help a little. This just means I am going to have to find a chance to talk to him. :roll:
But I don't think he's really all that bad, Just towards me. It could be because I am the only advanced male at that studio. Theres only girls other then us two in those calsses and the other guys are intermediate and beg. May-be he wants to be the best!??? :?

The studio I really like and the people in it too. So I really wouldn't want to find another because of this.

[MacMoto]

But I don't think he's really all that bad, Just towards me. It could be because I am the only advanced male at that studio. Theres only girls other then us two in those calsses and the other guys are intermediate and beg. May-be he wants to be the best!??? :?

I think you are probably right -- in his eyes, you are the only competition, a threat to his supremacy... He's nice to others because he doesn't feel threatened by their ability. Take is as a sort of complement, albeit a very twisted one.

The male ego is a weird thing...

[PunkDancer]

Yeah, I guess thats true to. Well I am going to see him to day in class, so I guess I'll try to bring up a convo.

Have you guys ever had a problem w/ another dancer :?: