sides of you

[jenn]

how many sides of you are there? for example, theres the side that the people you work with see...the side your family sees...your spouse/g or bfriend...friends outside dance...friends (aquaintances) at dances...etc.

what are these sides of you like?

do you change your personality/actions (much) depending on who youre around?

[Sagitta]

Yes. What about u?

[danceguy]

My front side is pretty interesting, I have a nice smile and the ladies seem to like my beard. The backside doesn't get as much attention as I'd like...and my left and right are good too. :lol: :D :lol:

[jenn]

Yes. What about u?

oh, yessss...but of course. :wink:

i ll have to get back to this one (i have to get back to class). plus, i wanna hear some answers first. =P

[mamboqueen]

I am pretty much the same in all of my "lives", be it work, friendships, dancing; the only exception is that I don't curse at church :lol:

[ShyDancer]

My front side is pretty interesting, I have a nice smile and the ladies seem to like my beard. The backside doesn't get as much attention as I'd like...and my left and right are good too. :lol: :D :lol:


:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:



As for the question at hand....Im always me. I dont change for anyone, Im a "what you see is what you get" kinda girl.

[Sabor]

its.. umm.. complicated .. ? lol

[Flat Shoes]

Different situations, different sides. Serious when I need to, playful when it's appropriate, etc. It's not jst about who I'm with, but also what I'm doing.

How many are impossible to say, would depend on how you count.

[tacad]

I'm all about connecting with someone. So I try to find some part of myself that can relate with the person I'm with at the moment. However it has to be genuine for me. I'm a lousy faker. So if some part of me starts to feel betrayed then I have to back off a bit until I am honestly connecting. I'll take a genuine low connction over a non-genuine connection any day of the week. This is when I'm at my best.

Now when I'm at my worst I don't back off to be genuine and I betray some part of me. This never works. I frustrate myself and other people run away (rightly). I am learning to be careful about this.

[Flat Shoes]

I'm a lousy faker.

I wouldn't know how to fake a personality. Never done it. Never tried it. Never crosses my mind. I am who I am, a person with different sides to his personality. :shock:

[motardmom]

I'm all about connecting with someone. So I try to find some part of myself that can relate with the person I'm with at the moment. However it has to be genuine for me. I'm a lousy faker.

This is me, tacad describes it so perfectly.

[pygmalion]

I'm all about connecting with someone. So I try to find some part of myself that can relate with the person I'm with at the moment. However it has to be genuine for me. I'm a lousy faker.

This is me, tacad describes it so perfectly.

Ditto. It's amazing how many people come away from interactions with me surprised at how much we are alike. I do try to find common ground with every person I talk to. So how many sides is that? Probably quite a few. :wink:

[pygmalion]

the only exception is that I don't curse at church :lol:

:lol: :lol: :lol: Tough one. :wink:

[Sabor]

i'm a mild schitzo.. and i luv it! :mrgreen:

[danceguy]

I have many sides to myself...and if I shared what they are then I wouldn't be able to be so sneaky! :lol:

Suffice to say, all the sides are but one and the same...so a person with true discernment can easily see the real me...and some have said that I may be hiding on purpose to see who's really paying attention. :eyebrow:

I have no idea what they are talking about though! :mrgreen:

[dancin_feet]

I don't so much have sides, rather layers.

I'm quite shy when I first meet someone, but as I get to know them, my personality comes out.

[Sagitta]

I don't so much have sides, rather layers.

I'm quite shy when I first meet someone, but as I get to know them, my personality comes out.

This means that we need several dances to warm you up? :( I have had dances with those that hold something back and dances given their all. Big difference!!

[dancin_feet]

I don't so much have sides, rather layers.

I'm quite shy when I first meet someone, but as I get to know them, my personality comes out.

This means that we need several dances to warm you up? :( I have had dances with those that hold something back and dances given their all. Big difference!!

Dancing with someone new probably skips a few layers. I'd only hold back to get used to your lead! My dancing personality doesn't start at the surface layer!! :D

[tacad]

I'm all about connecting with someone. So I try to find some part of myself that can relate with the person I'm with at the moment. However it has to be genuine for me. I'm a lousy faker.

This is me, tacad describes it so perfectly.

Ditto. It's amazing how many people come away from interactions with me surprised at how much we are alike. I do try to find common ground with every person I talk to. So how many sides is that? Probably quite a few. :wink:

Hey motardmom and pygmalion (or anyone for that matter), do the two of you do this as well when dancing for your connection with your partner? I'm still not happy with my connections. I feel as though there is a wall between my partner and myself most of the time. I can't seem to do what I would ordinarily do if we were just having a conversation.

EDIT: That is if you don't mind telling me and the rest of humanity.

[motardmom]

Hey motardmom and pygmalion (or anyone for that matter), do the two of you do this as well when dancing for your connection with your partner? I'm still not happy with my connections. I feel as though there is a wall between my partner and myself most of the time. I can't seem to do what I would ordinarily do if we were just having a conversation.

EDIT: That is if you don't mind telling me and the rest of humanity.

For me, a connection is very different than simply relating to another person. A connection just is. It's either there or it's not. A really good connection is found, not created. I have dance friends who I struggle to establish a connection with. These are great guys, people with whom I can find common ground off of the dance floor, no problem. But whatever it is, the magic ingredient that puts the *ZING* in the dance, just isn't there. Additionally, I have found great connections with people I didn't think I could connect with.

Bizarre.

[LauraB]

I have many, many sides. First of all, I'm a Gemini, so I definitely have two distinct personalities there. But I think there are more than two. I'm very quiet, shy, sensitive, anti-social, a loner; then sometimes I'm loud and out-going, funny, silly, wild, a party animal... I pretend I'm normal, but I'm actually a tree-hugging, hippie pagan, all peace-and-love, and at the same time really dark and pseudo-gothic. I haven't decided which one is more me, so they all are.


[One of me had to come back and laugh at myself. :lol: ]

[pygmalion]

EDIT: That is if you don't mind telling me and the rest of humanity.


Fine. Just remind me that the entire universe now knows intimate details of my life! :lol: :lol:

Yes. But only with good or experienced dancers. Newer leads are generally not present enough to be connected with, if that makes sense. They're thinking about what pattern to lead next, which is perfectly understandable. Leading is hard!!!

[Bob]

Among the list of my faults is the fact that I have only one personality.

I think I would do better if I had a couple of spare personalities somewhere. Like a Don Juan, Bruce Willis, or Tom Hanks.

As it is I am sort of stuck in a cross between Calvin and Fozzy Bear :raisebro:

[pygmalion]

If you're going to add a personality, please don't go for Bruce Willis. Your poor kids would probably be confused by the whole Dad-as-action-hero transformation. :roll:

Besides, I'm kinda partial to Fozzy Bear, myself. :wink:

[jenn]

i realized i never responded to my own question...**blushing**
ok, here goes...

i guess it would be unrealistic of me to say that im "myself" with everyone i come across...
when im with my trusted and close friends, im open, talkative, generous, warm, honest, sincere, funny, sarcastic, mischievious, and what ever mood i happen to be.

with family, im more private and i tend not to be as open because our views are so different sometimes and members of my family dont really understand me (except my brother). =)

at work, im professional, assertive, confident, outspoken, flexible, and most times friendly.

when im amonst pure strangers, im more reserved, but wont hesitate to speak when i feel the need.

and when im alone, im extremely pensive.

[benhere]

I'd have to say there are 4 sides to me (i guess that makes me a square... get it? bad joke :roll:), the hyperactive maniac side, the intellectual introvert side, the romantic side, and the punk rock skateboarder side... what a mix!

[fascination]

I am pretty much the same in all of my "lives", be it work, friendships, dancing; the only exception is that I don't curse at church :lol:
ditto but I curse at church too