Claire_Brummell
New Member
Well, you may have noticed that I popped up recently then vanished off the face of the earth for the last month or so, well that wasn't only true on here, but also on the dancefloor.
Long story short, the guy I'd been seeing for a few years, and the person I'd shared 90% of my salsa experiences with in that time just broke it off with me. We met at salsa, when we danced together it was electric and it was our love of salsa that brought us together in the first place. It's been a tough few weeks, but I'm picking myself up and getting on with life - it happens to us all, and you just have to get through it.
Well tonight was a big step for me - first night back on the dancefloor since the split. It was really tough, even though I knew he wouldn't be there, just being on the dancefloor without him felt really weird, being in a club without having someone to find and go back to between dances was completely alien and there were those obligatory "oh crap, this was one of our song" moments as well. BUT, that said, I'm glad I did it. I've always loved salsa, loved the music, loved the dancing and as hard as it was, I'm glad I forced myself back out there. I'll always have that fear that (although we live in totally different cities) that he'll pop up when I least expect it, but I needed to reclaim dancing as my thing, as it was before we met and needs to still be after.
Dancing and relationships can be great, but can also be really tricky if it doesn't work out. But it's important to try and get past that and remember why you were there in the first place. I don't doubt it'll still be hard for a while, but it was good getting back out there and I'll be making myself do it again soon.
This may sound completely ridiculous, but it was a big thing for me, so wanted to share - and if there are any guys (or girls!) out there who see me loitering in a club, don't hesitate to come and grab me for a dance!
Long story short, the guy I'd been seeing for a few years, and the person I'd shared 90% of my salsa experiences with in that time just broke it off with me. We met at salsa, when we danced together it was electric and it was our love of salsa that brought us together in the first place. It's been a tough few weeks, but I'm picking myself up and getting on with life - it happens to us all, and you just have to get through it.
Well tonight was a big step for me - first night back on the dancefloor since the split. It was really tough, even though I knew he wouldn't be there, just being on the dancefloor without him felt really weird, being in a club without having someone to find and go back to between dances was completely alien and there were those obligatory "oh crap, this was one of our song" moments as well. BUT, that said, I'm glad I did it. I've always loved salsa, loved the music, loved the dancing and as hard as it was, I'm glad I forced myself back out there. I'll always have that fear that (although we live in totally different cities) that he'll pop up when I least expect it, but I needed to reclaim dancing as my thing, as it was before we met and needs to still be after.
Dancing and relationships can be great, but can also be really tricky if it doesn't work out. But it's important to try and get past that and remember why you were there in the first place. I don't doubt it'll still be hard for a while, but it was good getting back out there and I'll be making myself do it again soon.
This may sound completely ridiculous, but it was a big thing for me, so wanted to share - and if there are any guys (or girls!) out there who see me loitering in a club, don't hesitate to come and grab me for a dance!
