Wow, interesting post. I've had this discussion with a leader friend of mine a few times and we were at it all night! Personally, I like the take my instructors have on the lead-follow dilema: the leader invites/proposes an action and the follower accepts. This creates a much more relaxed atmosphere to dancing and allows for a certain amount of freedom for both dancers to dance how they feel to the music. The imagery also tends to cut down on rough/strong leads in our classes and teams as forcing a pattern would not be an invitation. =) It also requires that both parties know their part including the timing, styling, any hijacking of roles by follower (limited and in such a way as not to unduly affect the lead). Now, to return to the original posting...this hijacking idea is how I get an off-beat leader back on beat. I'm not backleading, that would be to do something that the leader obviously did not lead...instead, I might hijack the timing of a simple right/outside turn. I'll do some fun/sexy/funky spot turn when the leader "proposes" the turn that takes as many beats as necessary to come out of it on the right beat. Even when the leader is on the beat I might do this and take 12 beats to finish a turn thats usually done over 3 beats, it's just fun! This works especially well with leaders who lose the beat while turning the follower because often the underlying problem is a discontinuation in movement while concentrating on the follower in her turn. Then, after the follower hijacks the turn the leader will unconsciously begin his basic back on the correct timing. *Note* The above is something that I typically do only when social dancing as I believe that a class setting is a totally different beast. In a class or at rehearsals, I will let the lead feel it out as much as possible and follow exactly as it is lead so that there is good feedback. If it seems that the leader is becoming frustrated, I'll help out a little, especially by exaggerating when and where I'll need resistance and tension for a correct lead. For example, if the pattern is a reverse xbdy inside turn where the follower needs to be turned 180 deg by 3 and the lead is given by slight tension in the arms on 1 during a back break but I do not feel any tension, I might initiate the feel of the tension by actively giving more body weight to the leader rather then attempting to simply match the lack of resistance given to me. The natural response of the leader when given more weight is to give tension to prevent a "fall", thus creating the tension that translates in beautiful momentum! I like this method more than simply backleading through a pattern as it gives feedback in another method. Backleading means that the proper tensions cannot be given by the lead because the follower is already performing the action...by exaggerating what leads need to be performed, the leader better understands the timing and feel of the leads.