We've come pretty close to this topic when it was "Is the lead the same in social dancing as it is in competition?" But, if many are convinced that the lead IS different . . . ," My question is: How is your attitude when dancing??? You know what I mean . . . let's say your are dancing, and if you are the leader and you have a good follower, what are you doing? Are you dancing with that person? How about if you are dancing, and you hear some "buzzing" going on in the corner, and a couple of girls are staring and pointing at you . . . like "Oh, watch him dance. He's so good!" Now . . . where is your attitude? Your head? Are you still dancing with the one you took out on the floor? Or . . . are you know showing off??? I know some of us like to show off, yet many get beyond this. I have been guilty of this, but . . . now??? What are you doing? Maybe your attitude is affecting your lead. The same question applies to followers, except obviously, reverse the situation!