If you see a couple dancing only with each other throughtout the entire night, is it rude to ask one of them to dance? Every now and again when I go social dancing, some of the most amazing follows that I have ever seen appear to be dancing with that same lead throughout the evening (could possibly be a boyfriend or husband?). I've rarely seen anyone approach either of them to ask for a dance, so I don't know if that means that all those who have attempted have been rejected, or if everyone has simply been afraid to ask. If I were to ask this follow to dance right in front of her partner, would this be considered rude? And if it's not rude, then how should I ask? If I ask the lead if I could dance with his partner, wouldn't that appear as is if I'm saying that the woman can't speak for herself? But if I just go and ask her directly, wouldn't that make me look arrogant as if I'm acting like her partner doesn't even exist? Has anyone else had experience with this?