General Dance Discussion > Beginning Dancers' Frequently Asked Questions

Discussion in 'General Dance Discussion' started by pygmalion, Sep 23, 2003.

  1. binzer

    binzer New Member

    I'm new here and decided to update the links to help out my fellow noobs (plus I was looking up some of them anyways). Hopefully they all work :)

    I'm just starting out. Do you have any words of wisdom?

    What Would You Tell Beginners

    What do I wear to dance?
    Swing Dance Clothes
    Dressing for Social Dances/Parties
    Basic Wear to Practice

    How and where do I find a reputable dance teacher?
    What Makes a Good Teacher
    Dance Instructor Questions
    Does the Sex of the Instructor Matter?

    How do I practice?
    Keeping Practice Exciting
    Practice Makes Perfect … Or Does It?
    Dance Practice Drills

    Do I need dance shoes? Where do I buy them? How do I care for them?
    Help with dance shoe sole issues!
    Shoes and Foot Care

    I only have a couple weeks to learn to dance. What do I do?
    Help! I Have a Wedding in Two Weeks
    Ballroom Lite Please

    What about dance lessons -- how much do they cost? Should I take group or private lessons?
    Cost of Private Lessons
    How Can I Get More Out of My Group Classes?

    Are there rules of etiquette for the dance floor?
    Social Obligations

    How do I find a dance partner?
    Dance Partners

    I need to know the basics of club dancing. Help.
    Club Dancing Index
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  2. Larinda McRaven

    Larinda McRaven Site Moderator Staff Member

    Thank You!
  3. etp777

    etp777 Active Member

    That would officially be one of the best first five posts ever. Welcome, and THANK YOU!
  4. SDsalsaguy

    SDsalsaguy Administrator Staff Member

    Ditto!!! :cheers:
  5. Terpsichorean Clod

    Terpsichorean Clod Well-Known Member

    Thank you, binzer!! :applause: :applause: :applause: :applause:
  6. Terpsichorean Clod

    Terpsichorean Clod Well-Known Member, do I get to keep my job? :)
  7. SDsalsaguy

    SDsalsaguy Administrator Staff Member

    Yep... but you may have a deputy in the making! ;)
  8. Terpsichorean Clod

    Terpsichorean Clod Well-Known Member

  9. taylor1990

    taylor1990 New Member

    I think this is a great thing for beginners. I really hope they make use of it!
  10. Kits

    Kits New Member

    This Beginner is! :)
    I'm glad I found this! Thanks so much!
  11. Ray Sison

    Ray Sison New Member

    This is a great resource--and I still come back to it from time to time...
  12. dancygirl

    dancygirl New Member

    hey everyone, actually I think that if u are a beginner at dancing u have to learn to relax, as tension will prevent u from getting pleasure from dancing and it will seem as it is a work for you.
  13. saraht

    saraht New Member

    None of these links work anymore. Can't someone update this?
  14. Larinda McRaven

    Larinda McRaven Site Moderator Staff Member

    They are all working... Not sure why they did not for you.
  15. wooh

    wooh Well-Known Member

  16. Larinda McRaven

    Larinda McRaven Site Moderator Staff Member

    Oh.. I see.....

    When I scrolled up to the top of my page I got post #41... which all the links work. I did not realize that was not the top of the original thread.

    Original post is now updated :)
  17. ksulli

    ksulli New Member

    I have 2 questions:

    1. I was taught that a man can "invite" the woman to turn but that she does not have to turn (her shoe is loose, she's dizzy, etc.). Is this true or does the woman always have to turn?

    2. This really happened. A couple was bearing down on us and would have run into us if I had not taken the lead to steer us out of their way. I didn't feel I had time to warn my husband. Hubby says I should "never" take the lead. Is this true? If not true, when can the woman legitimately take the lead?

    Thanks in advance for any help on this.
  18. DL

    DL Well-Known Member

    Hi there.

    The sun won't fall out of the sky or anything if she doesn't. :)

    Sometimes I lead an underarm turn and my partner, for one reason or another, just doesn't go. That's OK, as long as we sort ourselves out and (ideally) get back on the same page for the next measure.

    I think not-colliding is better than colliding. That said, there's a wide spectrum of back-leads. My favorite back leads:
    * make it clear that my partner will keep following no matter what
    * let me know that there's a problem where we're headed
    * give a clue about where the problem is (how far, what direction)
    * suggest a safe alternate route.

    I know very very few ladies who can do all of that; and I have a LOT of respect for the hard-earned skill they exhibit when they do it.

    In any case as a leader I think it's ideal when my partner communicates but leaves it up to me what to do about what she communicates. This requires a certain amount (!) of trust on her part.

    It's tough for a beginner follower to back lead adeptly. It's disconcerting for a beginner leader to feel that leads are being disregarded. It's useful nonetheless for both to work together to avoid being bumper cars.

    Suggestions might be to make a point of returning the lead immediately after taking a *brief* action to avoid a problem; or indeed to allow minor collisions to occur (back-of-leader-to-back-of-leader is generally not so bad in my experience).

    Finally, not having been there and not having seen the incident, I might note the possibility-in-principle that the other couple, despite all appearances to the contrary, had their own plan to miss a collision.
  19. wooh

    wooh Well-Known Member

    It's a free country. If I don't want to turn, I'm not going to turn. If there's a reason though, I'd probably mention to the lead, "Ummm, I'm dizzy/tired/shoe about to fall off." Otherwise, he's going to keep trying to lead you to do it.

    With a good leader, I won't backlead, but I will indicate that something is amiss. GOOD leaders can pick up on a teeny indication. Like a slight "pull" (for lack of a thesaurus at the moment to come up with a better word for it) on his arm. Granted, I've also social danced enough that I can make my indications there pretty clear.
    With a beginner leader, I'll flat out back lead away from danger. If he gets peeved about me "taking over," then in the future, I'll just make sure I'm safe and the other couple's lady is safe and let the stupid leaders run into each other.
    Of course, if I happen to not like the other couple, smacking the guy with my elbow might be a good thing. (I kid, I kid. My dear departed (for another state, I didn't kill him) former instructor would purposefully put me where I could "arm style" into my much formerer instructor, and the social part of me wins over the gladiator part of me and I just can't do it. :x )
    When I was starting out though, sometimes the best thing is to just grab the guy and get out of the way. But then you've also got a blind spot too, so you might be moving him into a danger that YOU don't see. So really, my rule is to just keep myself and the other couple's follow as safe as possible. And until I was aware and skilled enough, my rule was really just keep myself safe. Let the guys battle it out. Once the clueless leaders run into each other a few times, they learn.:p
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  20. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member


    Have I told you lately that I love you? You crack me the heck up wooh.

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