I wasn't sure where to put this, did a couple searches and couldn't find what I was looking for, so I thought I'd start a new thread. Mods, please merge if you can find what I couldn't. Sigh...I don't even know how to introduce this, so I'll just jump right in. Mid-November I got unceremoniously dumped. Needless to say, Thanksgiving a week and a half later wasn't a picnic. Best friend goes home to Michigan for the holiday and gets sick while she's there. My birthday is the following Sunday. I never hear from her, not even a text. When she FINALLY gets in touch 2 whole days later, it's a text in the form of "I'm soooo sorry I'm late, I've been sick, blah blah blah." Color me pissed. How much effort does it take to send a damn text even if you ARE sick??? Meanwhile, she misses a whole week of work because she's "just too sick" to make the drive back from Michigan. After she finally gets back, I try to make some sort of effort at seeing her, but every time I make a suggestion, she's got other plans. So I give up. I figure if she really wants to see me, she can call me. Meanwhile, we'd talked about doing one specific thing, which she was supposed to get back to me about and blew off. Well guess what--I never heard from her. I get an IM this morning: "Hi. Long time no talk. How are things?" Uh, no **** long time no talk. I haven't been bending over backwards to communicate with you when your priorities are obviously elsewhere. The kicker? We're both leaving for Christmas tomorrow. Oh, and she tells me she's taking a whole week off AGAIN between Christmas and New Year's. Uh, she just started working full-time less than a month ago (she was hourly before that)--how the hell does she already have that much time available to take off? I started my full-time job 3 months ago, and won't be eligible to take any vacation time for 3 more months. I've noticed before that this is a pattern in our relationship--me usually being the planner and doing the inviting--but for some reason this was just the straw that broke the camel's back. I don't know what to do about this friendship. Do I just accept that this is how our relationship works, that I'm the one making most of the effort? Do I bring it up (which I dread--I seriously HATE confrontation and am seriously not good at it)? Or do I just move on--which would hurt my heart? I'm not exactly drowning in friends, especially girlfriends. I can't afford to lose one.