Often a piece of dangerous industrial equipment will have a big red stop button. I am in no way trying to imply a tango follower is dangerous or industrial, but where is the big red stop button? Most of the time, with most ladies, things work as desired. With a few follows (seems to correlate with being more advanced) I can't seem to get them to stop doing ochos or molinetes. I can change direction (step out of it), but can't get them to stop for even a millisecond to try to do a gancho or even just to stop entirely for a pause in the music. One funny example was a very experienced lady. It went very well, she would perfectly execute everything I tried to lead, except stopping during ochos or molinetes! (I could get a stop during walking.) Finally, the 3rd song into the tanda, I exclaimed "Stop!" She did, and I was finally able to do a token gancho. We both laughed pretty hard. I don't hear other leaders barking out commands, so even though it worked, I suspect this is not doing it right. Any suggestions for me? Thanks.