I am once again simultaneously happy and frustrated. Here, in Edmonton, I'm not finding ANY sexual tension on the dance floor! And while this relieves me to some extent (managing five or six aggressive admirers can be exhausting), it's also making a lot of the dancing pretty ho-hum. Where's the chemistry here? I'm not finding it. Seems like guys around here are mostly used to keeping women at a polite distance... I'm sure it's just a cultural difference (yes, there are plenty between the US midwest and the Canadian west), but it's throwing me off. I'm keeping up hope that once my dancing improves a little more, i can acheive a different sort of chemistry with these dancers. But for right now, it's very hard connecting on the dance floor. Through sexual tension, I find a road in to another person's intentions, thought process, feelings and movement. I've had many great dances with "just friends" and have acheived euphoric dances, but I think this was aided by dance nights full of a variety of dynamics betwen different sorts of friends. I would get the blood-burning, goose-bumpy, cheek-flushing, eye-sparkling dances now and then, and I'd segue into the friendly, rhythmic, smooth and suave dances with friends I cared deeply for, and then have an experimental and challenging dance with a relatively nw partner. It all made for a night of satisfying levels, each one enhancing the other. NOw I find that the platonic levels I'm experiencing here and suffering because I'm aching for intimate connection on the dance floor. Granted, I've only been here for a couple of months. I know I'm impatient. But doesn't sexual chemistry sort of happen instantaneously? Rrrgh. Never thought I'd be in a position where I want to encourage the gentlemen to be less... well, gentle.