I had a date last night. The ballroom dancing went well (very well) but the rest... well not as great. She, like me is new to salsa. I mentioned that generally I need to be inspired by the salsera to dance passionately. Her response floored me. She thought that about 70% was from the man, 30% was from the woman. I took her to be referring to passion but I could be wrong. Nevertheless, after the date, not feeling so hot (necesssary for context for what follows) I went salsa dancing. I decided to show my passion immediately and not wait for her to ignite mine. (This will be tough to phrase.) I asked a woman to dance. To be honest I felt like a wolf. During the dance I was looking at her as though I had to have her. Looking at her body to a lesser extent (that is, not staring) but very passionately, as a man enthralled, barely able to contain himself. I was pursuing her through the dance, gyrating up a storm. Also, I had set my mind that she had to enjoy the dance so that I could enjoy the dance and other women would want to dance with me as well. Then an amazing thing happened. She started to smile, and smile some more. Then she began to gyrate herself. She really enjoyed the dance. After that dance there was another woman waiting for me to ask her. This is how it went that night. They mostly had a good time dancing with me. I suppose this is a good thing. It's how I've always wanted to dance but felt like women would go "Ewww." Yet it seems to be exactly what I should do to be a successful salsero. Still, I'm somewhat shocked. So what do you all think. I'm beginning to think that most salseras are waiting for the guy to show his passion for her, and then they respond in kind. A few, like africana, will start first, but the bottom line is that if I want dances I'm going to have to do this, which I want to do anyway. It's just odd after keeping myself in check all this time that letting passion out is just what I should do. I think I may be way too liberated and need to regress a bit.