When taking classes with Cuban instructors or latin people, they will usually emphasize the idea of dancing with the woman. Eye contact, smiling, little tricks like pulling her in and sitting her on the lap, little taps here and there, and many other factors that, while not visible to the people watching the couple dance, add a big fun factor to the dance. Of course, this leads to ideas like "move around the dancefloor, move while you spin, etc". When learning NY/LA style dancing, I've noticed that the phrase "show off the woman" appears a lot. There is greater emphasis on the moves that will make her look spectacular on the dance floor, and the emphasis is on technique, speed, double spins, etc. The exhibition aspect of the dance takes over, and the little fun things are just not passed from dancer to dancer. It seems that the dance is now optimized for speed and efficiency of movement. Have you ever looked into your own personal style and found that you can't really mix what you've learned in one place with what you've learned in another? Has anyone come across something like this?