How to say no. Ok, folks. The ideas for topics are flowing fast and free, so here goes again...what are the most diplomatic ways to decline a dance without seeming horridly rude? You can only say "no, thank you. My feet hurt'' so many times. I'm asking because there are a few dancers at my studio who, while wonderful dancers, are a little too "friendly" or awkward to dance with etc and, while it's only fair to give everybody a chance as you probably were when you started, everybody has at least one person they'd prefer not to dance with, for whatever reason. I'd love to hear how people decline dances without actually hurting the person who asked you. I've noticed some women simply say, "No" or "no, thank you'', which doesn't sound terribly caring.