General Dance Discussion > Do some men have specific partners for certain dances?

Discussion in 'General Dance Discussion' started by Rosieposie, Aug 18, 2013.

  1. Rosieposie

    Rosieposie New Member

    Is it usual to only be asked to dance one type of dance with a man? I can do salsa/merengue/bachata but only get asked to dance bachata by this one certain guy. He also always dances with his eyes closed. I've only ben dancing since the start of the year so I'm not quite sure why this is?
  2. opendoor

    opendoor Well-Known Member

    Hi Rosie, of course: I only dance bachata with a handful of followers. In the case of this dance I play it safe. She must not be skilled and must not know many steps but bachata simply turns out horrible if the follower does not let herself into it and works against the lead. Salsa (mambo, montuno or casino) isn´t that sensitive. In the case of tango I even got preferred followers for each orchestra or singer.

    By the way, have you ever asked that guy if he could ask you when the next fast mambo will be put on? Perhaps he still thinks you aren´t that far but you can convince him of the contrary.

    And welcome to DF Rosie!
  3. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    varying men have varying reasons for asking various women to dance...yes...we could speculate...but there are lots of reasons...if you are curious, ask him
  4. cornutt

    cornutt Well-Known Member

    It could be that he enjoys doing bachata so much with you that he seeks you out for that, and then doesn't ask you for other dances because he doesn't want to monopolize you. You could try mentioning that you would enjoy trying some other dances with him.
  5. TemptressToo

    TemptressToo Member

    It's like comfort food sometimes. ;)
  6. Loki

    Loki Well-Known Member

    Does he dance salsa and merengue with other people?
  7. twnkltoz

    twnkltoz Well-Known Member

    I can see enjoying doing a particular dance with a particular person so much that you always ask them for it...and if you want to spread yourself around and not spend too much time with one person, you may end up not doing anything else with them.
  8. davedove

    davedove Well-Known Member

    I think that is the situation most of the time. I know there are certain ladies that I make a point to dance, for instance, a waltz with them. But, if there are a lot of people at the dance and I spread myself around, I might not be able to get back to them for something else. I try to mix it up, but sometimes it just doesn't happen.
  9. cornutt

    cornutt Well-Known Member

    Reviving this thread: There is one particular lady who shows up on Friday night who is a very good dancer. A while back, we discovered that we dance bolero particularly well together. So we got into the habit of seeking each other out whenever a bolero was played. This eventually became a joke between us; when a bolero played, I'd try to sneak up on her when I came to ask for a dance, so that she'd wonder if I was coming and then boom! So a few weeks ago she "banned" me from asking her for a bolero. The last few weeks, the joke has been, "I'll dance anything with you except bolero!"

    I got even with her, though. I made her dance a WCS with me. :D
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  10. opendoor

    opendoor Well-Known Member

    Perhaps the music is too romantic and you are quite handsome guy.
  11. Loki

    Loki Well-Known Member

  12. cornutt

    cornutt Well-Known Member

    Aha! I'm old enough to be her father. :eek: Seriously, she's quite attractive, but I'm sure she doesn't think of me that way.
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