And there are those who never get over the "dont' touch me vibes" and just lose out of friends. I can think of this girl who I knew from before my salsa dancign days, who was (is) also into good amount of dancing. Then she meets this guy on the salsa floor, who is a really beginner. They start going out, and while they are going out, she acts like she barely knows any of her friends. That's okay I think - she has a new boyfriend and they need time. But normal smiles and civil hellos are gone too - and I'm not a salsa friend gosh darnit! - I knew for a long time. So I give up on her, and just stop bothering. After several weeks, the said boyfriend is going out of town for 2 months, so our heroine decides to touch-base and say hello. WTF??? I don't care for her romantically, and she is free to have her own life. But to be a part of mine, you've got to be in touch. Hugging is optional, but she is out. My point being - the "dont' hug me" vibe is a slippery slope. If it's one-off, and the new non-salsa gf/bf needs a day or two to get used to it, that's fine. If it lasts longer, then I would've learned that we can't be good friends. Of course, we can still smile and dance - sometimes.