General Dance Discussion > Emotional Attached

Discussion in 'General Dance Discussion' started by SwingWaltz, Oct 12, 2008.

  1. SwingWaltz

    SwingWaltz New Member

    Do you find yourself emotional attached to your dance partner? It's not nessarily love, but it's not as simple as friendship either, it's hard to explain. I'm feeling a mix of wonderful emotions, I would think of the partner but I can't really explain what it is that I am thinking about. Confused? Me too!
  2. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    I you like the fact that you haven't had a fight yet...monitor that closely...
  3. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    harmony is a wonderful thing
  4. Lioness

    Lioness Well-Known Member

    I know what you're talking about. My partner and I get it. We're very good friends, and we understand each other completely. We very very rarely fight.
  5. dbk

    dbk Well-Known Member

    Two of my dance partners are good friends, and the third my boyfriend. So yeah, I guess I'm emotionally attached to them. One in particular. ;)

    But then, we're not all that serious as far as dancing goes (only collegiate competition) so there's not as much emotional drama to guard against.
  6. Angel HI

    Angel HI Well-Known Member

    It's rather simple, actually. Dance is a different kind of art. Painters paint canvasses; potters sculpt pots; quilters quilt, etc. A dancer is the art...the dancer is the dance. So, when we dance, we are not dealing with an externality, be it; passion (how it touches us emotionally), reaction (how it makes us feel), desire (the will to want more), endorphines (how it affects us physically).

    These are all very intimate stimuli. Dance, esp. BR, is very intimate...very sensual...often, very sexy. All of these feel goods...these warm fuzzies are always to/by/with our partners, and can often become confused with the appropriate emotion. Are students really in love w/ their pros, or ams w/ their partners, or are we all just infatuated with the feelings that we receive from dancing?

    Dare I say, you are definitely not alone in this one.
  7. elisedance

    elisedance New Member

    Nicely written AH - a very complex set of feelings. Perhaps every woman falls a bit 'in love' (for want of a better term) with thier dance pro, if they work long enough together. and I suppose sometimes there is a bit in the reverse direction too (though I doubt its that frequent). I think the thing is not to deny it but to compartmentalize it as a part of your dance partnership and not get deluded that its anything more than the dance itself. If you can pull that off the dancing becomes just that bit more genuine.
  8. Angel HI

    Angel HI Well-Known Member

    Merci, but, though "compartmentalize" is a good word, one should not be so recessed to delusion either. many successul romances have been borned of succssful partnerships. [​IMG]
  9. elisedance

    elisedance New Member

    yes - but I hazzard to guess that many more have been delusional on one side or tother :) I think safest to assume that the 'relationship' is solely a dance one until there is proof of anything further - and then I would still be a bit sceptical.
  10. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    My thoughts on it...

    There is genuine interplay between male & female energies in good partnership dancing. It is primal and feels good on a deep level. No avoiding it if there is connection & harmony. But it only has the *meaning* that the individual or couple give it. And if we're feeling romantically, sensually, or sexually needy, it's easy to project meaning onto it that isn't backed up by compatibility and shared purpose. Same thing if our concept of "relationship" is limited and we think that those feelings must ipso-facto "mean" something more than just being a positive experience, however wonderful and open-hearted in the moment.

    But us humans generally being confused about what we want, it's easy to get confused by these feelings...ergo the plethora of threads like this. :)
  11. quixotedlm

    quixotedlm New Member

    you are in love. and you are in denial.
  12. elisedance

    elisedance New Member

    Or you are not in love but wish you were...
  13. SwingWaltz

    SwingWaltz New Member

  14. Standarddancer

    Standarddancer Well-Known Member

    Just enjoy the extended honeymoon:)
  15. chachachacat

    chachachacat Well-Known Member

    And lay off the married people!!! (My former husband was stolen, not to mention other attempted steals by students and partners!)
  16. elisedance

    elisedance New Member

    Much as I sympathyse with what you must have gone through, is it really possible to steal someone? Either they want to stay or they don't.... 'Stolen' has connotations of 'posession' - exactly what women fought against for hundreds of years (and still have to in some parts of the world).
  17. Standarddancer

    Standarddancer Well-Known Member

    so chachachacat, your former husband is a dance teacher? sorry for what you've been through. "hug"
  18. rumblefish

    rumblefish New Member

    'Infatuation' perhaps more than love is what may be initially experienced. But love can grow out of that one, too.
  19. quixotedlm

    quixotedlm New Member

    people in relationships are often possessions just the same. never mind the women's libbers.. :p
  20. WaltzElf

    WaltzElf New Member

    What's wrong with belonging to one another?

    Sometimes I wonder if feminism isn't just bitter women out to kill romance for everyone. ;)

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