I've been reading comments in the past few months that read in effect, the man should step in such a way that the woman can feel his steps. I was taught that the man leads with his body, and that the woman follows the man's body; or more exactly his "center". We were given exercises to practice just this; the man moving his feet in different ways while the woman takes her own steps. He practices moving his center in a steady fashion, while varying his footwork. She concentrates on ignoring what he is doing with his feet, while responding to the lead from his center. The earliest example of this in my lessons was when we were taught how to go into "crossed system" by taking an extra step. The man does this smoothly so that the woman either doesn't feel it, or knows she is supposed to ignore it. All of this was consistent over a number of teachers here in Portland, and numerous visiting notables. What have you all been taught in this regard?