chook: man, I hear you! i went to a boys grammar school and didn't have a girlfriend (didn't even come close to doing so) for a good eighteen years. I probably would never have one if I didn't start dancing. BUT, while I have at least ten good girl*frenz* (friends in the sense we can go and do non-dancing things), I have never dated anyone from dancing, and only asked one, who declined. But dancing instilled me the self-belief that I was not in some way deficient in mingling with the fairer sex... I realized I was in fact quite talented. From dancing, I learnt to hold my head high and walk with purpose and good posture. I learnt to dress well and carve out a sense of style. I got an opportunity to pick the brains of my dancing girlfriends and recieved invaluable advice as to how I can find a real girlfriend. None of this would happen without dancing. But holding the girl on the dancefloor, even smooching if the mood fits, is not the same as having a girlfriend. Not close, but none better than the other just different. Dancing is role playing, fantasy, flirtation, communication, showponying. It's not love and romance.