Salsa > Gotta love gossip.

Discussion in 'Salsa' started by thespina13, Jan 7, 2007.

  1. sweavo

    sweavo New Member

    oo by the way, watch out for seasonal movements in these emotions... the equinox is past, the sap is rising... there's gonna be a build up thru spring, a bumpy time around march, and a release in May. mark my words.
     
  2. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member

    I understand. The thing is that there is gossip everywhere, and sometimes gossip will follow you (don't ask me why this happens, but I think some people have way to much time on their hands). If you think the place is worth it, then stay. If not, then yes it's probably better to leave. But in my experience, putting my foot down was the way to go. I had to throw in an ultimatum and say if you want to listen to this garbage, then I'm taking my money elsewhere. If they listen and respect you as a customer, then it's the place for you. If they don't, then leave them because it will only get worse, because the gossipers will make sure that's the case. But remember it is a business first and foremost. If they put you as a customer first, then they are professional. If not, then it's time to leave. ;)
     
  3. Josh

    Josh Active Member

    The nice thing about gossip is that it takes two people--one to talk, and one to listen. I simply remove myself from the listening role if one in a talking role approaches me, and I try to never assume the talking role, so that pretty much removes gossip from my path.

    If you're being gossiped about, it's good (IMO) to examine first of all if there's some truth to it, and then try to make corrections if you feel it would better yourself. If you discover that the gossip is just untrue or that it shouldn't be talked about anyway, then it's as simple as this: the truth will be evident by your actions, and your gossipers will look silly.
     
  4. sweavo

    sweavo New Member


    Go Josh! The number of times I've tried to convince the females in my (dance) life of this very fact...
     
  5. Pacion

    Pacion New Member

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Josh [​IMG]
    the truth will be evident by your actions, and your gossipers will look silly.


    What exactly have you tried to convince the females in your (dance) life of? Enquiring minds would like to know! :raisebro:
     
  6. thespina13

    thespina13 New Member

    Thanks Josh. That's really helpful.
     
  7. thespina13

    thespina13 New Member

    Dude. You have wisdom. Thanks for reminding me. I'm more than susceptible to seasonal emotions, and i'm glad to be reminded about the fact that others may be, as well. Thanks. Totally makes sense.
     
  8. Twilight_Elena

    Twilight_Elena Well-Known Member

    Been lurking around this thread. Still thinking. Will post when I have something smart to say. Sooo... see ya in a year or ten. :lol:

    T_E
     
  9. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member

    I totally agree with you.

    I totally agree with you about this too. My brother has said the exact same thing to me when I was going through my situations. (He's a lawyer, so I always end up talking to him about these types of situations.) But yep that's what we do when we are in situations, and my brother is a good one to talk to for he'll point out every single little detail (even crazy things lol) that you never would have thought of.

    I just don't get why people do this type of thing though. I mean I get it when you are younger, and you don't really understand the difference between truth and gossip, but still when you are older you would think that people would just realize the difference and not take part in these situations. But oh well... that's just the way it goes I guess.;)
     
  10. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member


    Lolololololol.... still laughing about this one lolololol. :p
     
  11. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member

    But gossip doesn't go along with seasonal emotions though, because gossip happens all of the time year round, and it happens between men and women. I mean a seasonal emotion could be like men saying that women have pms or that it's menopause etc., and it annoys me when men think that lol. If that really were the case, then I would definitely advise some women to see a OBGYN or some kind of specialist/doctor ASAP!!! But unfortunately that's not always the case, because the men can get involved too, and I don't think that they want to go to an OBGYN or any specialist/doctor of any sort. ;)
     
  12. sweavo

    sweavo New Member

    Of all the things I've tried to convince them, the only one they seem to go for is "sorry, that was my fault"...
     
  13. sweavo

    sweavo New Member

    Nah, just take a step back from humankind and watch for a year or two. In spring the ducks are all out, the insects are going crazy, and the college kids are all rubbing against one another! In the depths of winter the trees and the squirrels are hunkered down, the seeds are starting to get ready to sprout underground and the dancers are especially bitchy :)
     
  14. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member

    Haha... still don't buy it, but very funny all the same. ;)
     
  15. englezul

    englezul New Member


    True. If in life you keep getting into similar problems and face similar situations the common element might not be "people are mean" or what have you. The common element might just be you.
     
  16. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member

    Well, it could also mean that these people have no lives of their own and are attacking you just to attack you for whatever the reason especially if it's only in one circle of friends that won't leave you alone and you have left them alone lol. It's almost like being dragged into a stalkerish situation. ;)
     
  17. quixotedlm

    quixotedlm New Member

    Sure, the common element could be you, because you are so worthy of being the object of everyone's jealousy. Doesn't mean that there is anything wrong or you have to change...
     
  18. thespina13

    thespina13 New Member

    I think I may sign up for a certain amount of gossip. My character is a little more exuberant and permissive than most would expect from a "mother and wife". It frustrates me that mother and wife hover over me like a big moral metre stick, and it's not the guys who approach me that get judged, it's me. So. I have to basically "tone it down" in all areas. I also have to react more demonstratively to those who cross lines, instead of dealing with it quietly the way I have been. I'm at the point whre I'm done fighting against it. I cried a long time ago at the thought of changing myself so I'd "fit" my lifestyle better, according to the masses. Now, it's simply becoming evident that a certain amount of acquiescence will be necessary for me to be left alone and still have a good time.

    Now, if after my best efforts, I still get picked on, that's their problem. I'm not going to alter my entire personality because someone has a problem with it. I am going to guard myself more closely though. Try or not, people's opinions of me do have an effect on my psyche, and they attack my sense of who I am. Maybe it shouldn't be that way, but I'll use these experiences as learning tools. I feel like a baby most times, positively naive when it comes to social norms (or maybe I'm subversive?). Other times I feel like I was born the wrong sex... (do men get called the kinds of names I do? Do most women behave the way I do?), and yet other times, I feel like a wise, robe-wearing teacher who has it all figured out.

    Then salsa (read:the salsa community) comes in and tears me apart. LoL.. My teacher told me this summer, when I met her, that salsa doesn't make anything easier. Maybe it keeps the weight off, but everything else... well. Yeah. I'm beginning to see her point.
     
  19. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member

    Well, I think that your teacher is right. Dancing in general isn't supposed to make you want to hide anything. In that respect, dancing doesn't make things any easier. It just helps with the pain for a short time, and then it's back to real life. But dancing can also help you find out what kind of person you really are since it opens up so many avenues for you as a person whatever they might be, which in that respect again shouldn't give you a reason to hide anything but to be the person that you have been wanting to be. ;)
     
  20. Pacion

    Pacion New Member

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Pacion [​IMG]
    What exactly have you tried to convince the females in your (dance) life of? Enquiring minds would like to know!


    :nope: Not buying that one Sweavo. The question was - what exactly have you tried to convince etc... not, which one they seem to go for! :raisebro:
     

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