Actually, my partner (also my life partner BTW) may even disapprove of the first offer. I've seen both - follows who have to be pushed to their axis and those who too quickly move past it. In either case, it doesn't feel grounded to me. In the former, perhaps she can feel the ground through me, but I can't feel it through her. She just feels heavy, not grounded. And in the latter, neither one of us can really feel the ground through the other. I also see a lot of leads who just shuffle from step to step, never arriving so that the follow can really tell where they are, but also just shuffling on past the point where they should have felt grounded to their partner. I won't post any videos (Mario has posted enough for all to go back a look at ), but if you look at nearly any of the old and respected milongueros, you can really see this sense of arrival, which translates into a strong feeling of a grounded connection.