The "wrong foot" in AT is nothing like the "wrong foot" in other dances. It really doesn't matter all that much. Sure, you could say that you're not on the foot he'd originally intended, but if the leader is decent and other bits of your technique are in place, it's as others have said--there are plenty of ways for the lead to adjust what he was doing and continue on. Really, don't worry so much about it. A bit out of order, but they go together with what I want to say... If you're still trying to fix mistakes, you haven't really learned to wait. You're still responsible for getting back to "the correct position" in AT (IMHO), but in AT that correct position can be thought of as standing and waiting with your weight clearly over one foot. When in doubt, just stand there and look pretty and let the guy figure things out. Especially since you're a beginner. You might want to work on pretty things to do with your feet while standing still, so it looks like you meant to do that! (Which is, admittedly, a perfectly hypocritical thing for me to say, since I resist adornos.) This makes me scratch my head a bit. The V-embrace is fine for close embrace, but I've never heard of it being used in an open embrace. (Which, IIRC, is what you're mainly doing right now) That aside... I started out (in close embrace) being taught to keep my shoulders parallel to the man's. After a bit, I was introduced to the V-embrace. It doesn't much matter. Both are legitimate styles and embraces, and you'll find as you progress that the shape of your embrace will change with the leader. With some guys, I dance with a relatively open V; with other guys, I tend to dance more parallel. The guy's height relative to mine tends to be the deciding factor (as in, is he tall enough that my nose will go underneath his chin, instead of into the side of his face). About the following with shoulders parallel versus following with a V-embrace, even if it is in open embrace... Try not to get so hung up on the shape that it's supposed to be. Find a comfortable and workable position, and think of that as "neutral" position. Regardless of how that "neutral" is established, aim to maintain that. If you're in a V, stay in a V; if you're parallel, stay parallel. It really doesn't matter. What matters is that you maintain the position of your body relative to his, whatever that relative position actually is. At the risk of being patronizing, that will partly come in time. There seem to be as many different theories about the cross--if it's lead, how it's lead, etc.--as there are dancers. Go figure. Find yourself a good teacher (which seems to be something of an issue for you) and take a couple of private lessons. It is, absolutely, a leadable move. A good teacher should be able to demonstrate that. And after a while, you'll find that some combination of recognizing a lead and intuition will take over and you'll understand when you're supposed to cross versus not.