I just came across this thread and had to tell my story... First off, I (hetero) have no problem with gay folks at the dances. I generally go to the (mainly salsa) socials, and sometimes the salsa clubs, and it's rare to see any same sex couples dancing, although I think I did see a male couple once or twice at a social. As to F/F couples, while I have seen women dancing together, my sense is that in the instances I've seen, they were just friends or maybe a female instructor that knew how to lead, dancing with a female follower, and not a couple per se. Anyway, one time I was at a salsa social that I have gone to many times, and where I have never seen any obviously gay folk. A woman came over to me and asked if I wanted to dance. I was a bit taken aback, as it would have been one thing if I knew her, and in addition, I had never seen her before at any of the dances. Anyway, I usually don't turn someone down unless I had a previous bad experience with them. I inferred this woman obviously knew how to lead and was just looking for a presumed follower like myself to dance with. I nodded "yes" and then she said "you know how to dance right?" and I'm like "yeah" (and thinking "what an odd question to ask...do I LOOK like a total newbie??") Anyway, as we begin to dance, I get a better look at her and I'm like "oy vey...she's not just a woman that knows how to lead...I think she's a lesbian!" But it wasn't so much the fact that she was a lesbian that made me uncomfortable, but how she also came across. She was somewhat large, and had ample breasts. Whenever we were in closed position, I could feel her (large) left breast smooshed up against me, and honestly.... it felt very awkward for me. I was also a bit self-conscious as to what other people might be thinking..if they were wondering if I had any idea she was a lesbian...if maybe I'm into women, etc. I think another factor was that salsa in and of itself can be a sexual/flirtatious dance, and I don't feel comfortable being this way with an obvious lesbian. In addition, she was a bit rough with me during turn patterns. She also "corrected" me a few times. And I know this might sound rather "sexist" of me but....it's one thing for a man to correct me (which I don't like during social dancing), but I'll be damned if another woman is going to give me an uninvited correction! Hypocritical and sexist of me, I know. But that was honestly what I was thinking! Anyway, I couldn't wait for the dance to end. I haven't run into her again, and just hope I am never put in that compromising position again. I just really didn't enjoy the dance.