I've been whining about number of patterns for a while now. Yesterday I ran an experiment with my regular partner. I told her that I want to try something for one dance, but didn't tell her what it was. And for the whole dance I did these patterns only: basic follow's right UAT lead's right UAT CBL (vanilla, no variations, no turns) right side pass with double turn shoulder catch To my surprise (and as y'all were saying all these time), she said that she enjoyed it very much. "I felt like I'm flying" she said. When I asked if she noticed anything about this dance, she said that I did more than usual of shoulder catches (which is understandable). For me the dance felt awkward, I felt like I'm telling same joke at a party over and over (but everybody is enjoying it). As I have said million times before, it doesn't make sense for me. But my question for you is - what can I do to understand women's attitude about this? Should I do more following? Or is it one of those things that as a guy I'm not meant to understand (just like flowers)?