Maybe you're not a parent but you were a child--that qualifies you, yes? I think what your uncle did was just ridiculous. Dragging you physically? That's like, abusive. No wonder you didn't want to play again! You bring up a good point, Peaches. Children should be encouraged to continue, and not be allowed to quit just because it involves "a little bit of work." But when it gets to the point you described, it needs to be let go by everyone. I used to have a viola student who hated it and wanted to play the piano. His attitude was going downhill daily. His mom made him finish out the school year, which was only a few months, and told him if he could finish that commitment she'd let him try piano. He finished it with a great attitude knowing he was going to be able to make the sound he really liked very soon. He is going to university as a piano major--and viola minor. His attitude is still very good and he's a wonderful pianist. They ahd some practice push-pull, but it was part of him being a teenager I think. I have also seen it go the other way. There are a couple of sisters at the University where I teach who were forced to play the violin. One loved it, the other hated it--the one who hated it also majors in music. She uses the reason that if she is going to be forced to play she might as well enjoy it. But she majors in music because, as she says, it's all she was allowed to know, and all she knows. I think this was horribly wrong. What do you guys all think?