First of all, I'm new to Dance Forums. I was going to start a separate thread just introducing myself, but that seems a bit wasteful. If you want to know more about me, just visit my profile. Anyway, on with my question/situation... A couple months ago at a swing dance venue, they were giving a short, intermediate swing group lesson, and they taught us how to do dips. I finally figured it out after a while, so after the lesson was over and the dance floor opened for the night, I asked a lady to dance (she was a beginner) and tried to dip her at the end of the song. The first part was my fault...I was just in closed position and tried to immediately put my left hand behind her back for a dip instead of properly turning into it. She got confused and didn't seem to know what I was doing, and once I finally dipped her, she put all her weight back in my hands, and then...THUMP!...she hit the floor! My face turned as red as a fire truck, I apologized, she thanked me anyway, and I walked away, never to see her again. For the next few months, I was deathly afraid to try any more dips. That is, until this week. On Sunday, a friend of mine with whom I was dancing (who also happens to be an instructor) said at the end of a dance, "You need to learn some dips!" I then proceeded to tell her my embarrassing story from the previous paragraph. She told me it was probably her fault for putting all her weight on me, so I decided to try to relearn it. She demonstrated it for me a couple times with another lead, and I tried it a couple times myself, so I was feeling much better about it. There were a few things I needed to work on, but I figured all I needed to do is practice. So the next night at another dance, I tried it on a couple other follows. I did okay with the first two, but the third lady I danced with got dropped AGAIN! This time, I'm pretty sure it was all my fault. She didn't put an excessive amount of weight on my arms. I think there were two things I did wrong. First of all, I think I dipped her down too low (this was kind of a blessing simply because she didn't have very far to fall...I practically laid her down on the floor), and I think the other problem is that I leaned over her. That's one thing that the instructor from the previous night kept telling me...not to actually lean over my partner. I never quite figured out how to do that though. Anyway, does anyone have any advice on how to avoid repeating this mistake again? I'm kind of back at the point I was at after my first dip fail...deathly afraid to try it again. But at the same time, this is something I really want to learn and get good at. Some song endings (especially in blues) just call for a dip, and I'm tired of just doing puny little spins at the end of songs. I've thought about taking some private lessons to work on it, but those are so expensive. Any suggestions?