OK, this is a serious question because I'm becoming increasingly beffudled - the other day I was chatting with a pretty sound stranger in the pub about learning Tango and he narrowed his eyes at me and said, "It seems like a very... brutal dance." :shock: Luckily, he seemed pretty amenable to accepting that it was probably just the media messing wit' his head, as I explained what it really is. I've also had a few women go into an accusatory 'male-dominated/patriarchal etc' ill-informed mini-lecture. Generally, however, the response I get is surprisingly excited and full of admiration (with wistfulness in most women), but if I ask them (nicely) what Tango means to them, they get all defensive, so I never get an answer... or rather: don't get any glimpse into their perception. Most will have seen 'True Lies' and 'Scent of a Woman' but will have probably forgotten them by now, won't have ever randomly checked YouTube to see what different dances actually look like... but will have watched lots, and lots, and lots of TV (and read the paper and magazines) - so their entire idea of Tango has been shaped by the mainstream media (somewhere I can't go); and not even proper Stage Tango. I'd really like to have some idea of what these folks actually think I'm doing (I don't specify 'Argentine Tango' because it wouldn't mean anything to them... and no reason it should really - I'm not being pompous, but am simply genuinely curious). My only exposure to TV-'Tango' was (on YouTube) some BBC thing with those World-Champions-who-it-turns-out-weren't-in-reality, involving three guys, two chairs, and a woman relegated to the status of a red rolled-up carpet being spun around the guys' heads, with Libertango playing in the background... tell me that's not what they think I'm doing! :shock: Though it would explain the 'brutal/patriarchal' comments.... Obviously, I'll be grateful for any answers, but particularly in UK answers, since that's where I am... any links to 'average punter's idea of Tango' will be seriously appreciated, however media-caricaturised (the more the better, probably...). Cheers! PS: If anybody wants to include 'The strangest response that I ever received when I told a stranger that...' anecdotes, then please feel free too!