I agree 100% with this, and I'm glad I'm not the only one who's having a hard time trying to understand! I can't even begin to speculate about what's going on here because it's so far outside my own experiences. My one thought to add is that maybe you're being too sensitive/serious about these matters, v22TTC. There's nothing I've seen here that a smile and a little well-placed humor couldn't defuse. You could also try giving less information... either that you're going dancing, or even just going out for a night on the town!