To me, that's nothing more than a preference, or philosophy, if you will. When I first started tango, the idea of the automatic cross seemed strange to me. The more I dance, the more that I see the other point of view. I can and do lead the rhythm with some followers. What I will say is that with good followers (who listen for the lead), what you need to do to lead the rhythm, is not that much (just by the speed of my rotation). I'll even on rare occasion lead it as F-S-F-S, if there's a lot of space. I don't know how many followers dislike the rhythm to be led, but I've certainly noticed a preference between various followers about how the rhythm should be led (the mechanics of the lead). I've still got a lot to learn though, and it's quite possible that you know more about followers than I do.