Please bear with me, a bit long story and English isn't my native language. But really need some suggestion and inputs. Thanks! I'm in the UK. I'm male lead, 33 yrs old, but there's my partners thought I was 24, 25 zzzzzzzzzzz So I started ballroom and latin from a completely beginner in October 2015, taking both private lessons at least twice a week (1 hour/per lesson) and university group lessons. I competed in university circus from Nov 2015 to Feb 2016 at beginner level. Then my partner left UK because she was an exchange student. I kept taking private lessons at least twice a week all the time, and did IDTA bronze medal test. Fast forward to Nov 2016, I tried university competition at novice level with a new partner. It didn't work out at all because 1) we were competing against 2nd and 3rd year novice and 2) we were both not good enough which was understandable. So I decided to not continue with university competitions because 1) I'm finishing with my research degree, 2) my partner was not mentally on board as she wouldn't or was embaressed to train techniques with me as she did competitions only thought in this way she could do more social dancing (I know it didn't make sense but that's her words), and 3) I was paying all the lessons (which I didn't mind) so obviously at this point I was not gonna spend £££ to fix her problem (with this said I do appreciate she kept up the times to practise with me it's just she really needed to decide what she wanted). Now I was fine with all this, as lesson was learned and experience was gained although it might be a bit costly. So in Dec 2016, I decided to do medal competition as the school said I could dance with my teacher and if qualified for the national I could go find a partner and dance in the blackpool just like in the university circus. (I had a bit of luck in the blackpool as a university beginner and got a medal home woohoo.) Now I am realistic and am aware of how much hard work I need to put into to just get into the 2nd round outside of uni. There are a couple of reasons that I still definitely want to do competitions. Firstly, I think only doing the medal test won't help improve because literally everyone passes this is their business model and I see so many people just dance to the routine, not trying hard enough to dance to the power and beauty and obviously not really focused on small detailed techniques (but yup they pass). Secondly, Competition is something really push you to dance better. My understanding is that ballroom and latin is a needy and flashy dancing. If you wanna do more social dancing, there is salsa etc etc. So it will only be natural if one wanna do competition. Then here comes my teacher. She's the only teacher since I started dancing. She's a very nice person in general, we got along well. She helped me and my partner(s) a lot during university competitions. However, yesterday I wonder if she is the right teacher for me (based on how much I spend on lessons). So in Nov 2016, when I told her (and the school) I wanted to do medal competition, they were happy and encouraging, and said there would be a competitioin in Feb/March. (Well, I don't think they need my money that badly because there are always wedding couples.) But since it's close to Christmas, she told me let's start thinking about it after new year because she had already been in holiday mood. Sure thing, I really didn't mind. She even told me let's chill only having 2 lessons a week instead of 3 in Dec, because it's near Christmas. Then after New year, I have been having 3 lessons a week since. I always thought the feb/March competition would be the medal competition. I mentioned a couple of times but didn't go into details till yesterday, because well I was just followinig the british rule of being moderate not being too keen lol. Then yesterday I asked in details and she was like oh, she needed to check because they might do tango instead of the silver level (WQF) I'm doing now. So we checked, and actually instead of checking herself she kept asking the other teacher to check it for us. In the end we found out that it was a fun competition, they only do tango and jive (and sequence which I loath, sorry lol). I was very disappointed but the other teacher (the school principle) encouraged me to go as it would be a great experience. OK sure, let me think about it (although I knew I wasn't keen on this one). Then my teacher and I went to practise cha cha, and I was like hmmmm should I go then suddenly she bluntly told me she wouldn't go with me giving me some reasons like she's gonna stay there for a whole day and it's a sunday she needs to teach. The latter excuse is quite BS as I checked the real blackpool national qualifier in oct is also on Sunday. To be honest, I was in a bit shock and couldn't concentrate on dancing at all and just completely forgot the routine and she definitely noticed it. She did try to talk to me after the lesson, and it's clear she wanted to pivot the concern. I didn't say anything the whole time because I wanted to think about it and evaluate the situation, so I don't end up saying unnecessary things without gaining anything or hurting anyone. Now, thinking about it I'm also to be blamed that I didn't check it out myself about the competitions. I now found out that the Feb one is indeed a fun competition, which to be honest I am not keen on going. Then the national qualifer for blackpool is in Oct 2016, and blackpool is always in the next April. I understand I'm responsible for my own shiiit. But still, I felt that she was very irresponsible because as my teacher she would be the one dancing with me and it showed me that she didn't really care or at least put some thoughts into it. Then the bluntly saying not going with me was something I considered not nice at all. It showed that she didn't really wanna solve the problem or even discuss it to have a talk with me, given she knew how keen I was into competition in general. Now, I must say I don't think she purposely set me up. Not knowing the Feb competition date and dance category, it can be she's not really having students doing competitions and she could be a bit lazy and gave up a bit in herself (hard to describe this but I felt this way). Then the bluntly telling me not going is almost like a move of hiding her head in the sand as she might think this was the quickest and easiest way to put this thing behind us. As I could tell she wasn't confident when she said it. I understand this might just be a single incident as shiiit and mis-communication happens in life, and I don't want to over-read into it. But it leads to my evaluation of my lessons in general. (I do understand that it's my own responsibility to help myself to improve, because others can't force you improve. and i do admit sometimes I got lazy myself and just danced to the routine.) I now doubt if I am just throwing my money away by taking 3 private lessons a week and only dance with my teacher. During the three lessons, almost all the time we were either learning a routine or practise the routine. When training technique, it's just me going through the routine on my own and if there's obvious mistake (e.g. toe instead of heel) she would point out. As a rather beginner, I still don't really know how to train myself yet. We had only a bit technique training back quite a while ago, not at all recently. At this stage, I still have difficulty to train techniques alone as it sometimes creates extra mistakes when I'm not doing it properly. And usually I will have to raise questions myself then she will answer it or show me or correct it. She seems only correct very obvious mistakes (e.g. toe instead of heel, or feet not close together). There's no slight pressure or demand from her side at all. And sometimes I felt she just followed me saything things or saying those things won't put herself into extra effort (I don't have evidence on this thought). Also, as I'm doing medal test with her, she seems always need to ask other teachers the exact routine, and other teachers seem always know. And I've seen some ballroom technique workshop videos promoted by other dancing schools, it seems they train techniques quite extensively. OK those guys maybe are aiming for amature or pro, but still I don't have any technique training at all now. And I recall every time (very rare occasions) when the school owners saw me dancing they can always pick me on very basic things, and once one of them danced with me and was a bit surprised even asked me why I danced like this. ................... So what do you guys think? You can comment on anything and ask me extra information. And please point out if it's my faults and anything I could've done better or differently including my current lesson plan etc etc. Many thanks!