I'll ask you guys another qustion though on the same topic. Do you or your significant others have to ask your partner's permission before dancing with someone? -Madam Samba Absolutely. I should certainly never consider dancing with a friend's spouse without consulting the friend first. When men ask me if they can dance with my wife, I say, "Ask her." That is just a cover, though. What I really mean to say is "Sure, thank you for asking." I know beforehand the men with whom my wife likes to dance. If they are drunk, they don't get near her. I never ask a woman to dance who came with a man I don't know. If the woman introduces me to the new man, I'll feel free to ask her if she wants to dance. After all, I was dancing with her before they were together. It's not about insecurity, but about respect for the spouse.