.......After you've been practicing for a while. Your wife had had some dance experience? .....unless he is making it physically impossible for her to do so. Beginner leaders do this more frequently than you might think. Oh? I think most teachers are quite aware that what the beginning leader is being asked to do is well nigh impossible! What I am looking for, in my role as an assistant instructor is the easiest and most painless way of getting blokes over the multitasking hump. I have some ideas some more workable than others, but want to see what others come up with first. Cheers Sarah  f'rinstance, I think that the one involving the ego supression device and the army of well trained, infinitely patient robot followers is still in the realms of science fiction, or at least beyond our budget.