Hello friends, Several of you helped me out with a few very useful pointers half a year ago when I was just beginning. I'm still a total novice, of course, but since then I've taken maybe 40 private lessons, attended a similar number of group classes, done hundreds of hours of practice at home and been to maybe a couple dozen milongas, though I don't usually dance more than three or four tandas. I can do some basic stuff like cruzada, ocho, and molinete, but not much else. Suits me fine for the moment. I'm wondering whether I'm nearing the point where I should be thinking about leadership, or whether it's still too early. This isn't my own idea: I didn't really give this a thought until recently, but women I dance with (primarily my partner) say that I'm nice enough to dance with but don't really "lead it". I can't pretend I understand what that means, though. I guess it really refers to me struggling to keep up with the other dancer, rather than being decisive about the dance. Do you need to take specific steps to attain this "leadership", or does it arise as a construct of experience? I suppose it's hardly surprising that I'm apparently not "leading it" at the moment, since in all pairings I am the less experienced dancer. I've gotten a lot of feedback along these lines from women, but it would be good to get a male perspective. Do you "lead it"? Does this mean being more assertive in some way, or a step or two ahead of the other person, or is it just a mindset that arises spontaneously? Is it something concrete? I'd be nervous about being a step or more ahead, because I want to be in time with the music and not spoil that. I guess I could be more assertive, but I feel like I don't have enough information just yet on what is happening on the dance floor. It's probably because I don't "feel" the information supposedly passed through the chest connection. At a milonga, if I watch my partner dance with another man, I can see clearly what her upper body is doing, what her legs are doing (although though I understand that according to my teachers you're not supposed to worry about the legs, but it's easier for me to distinguish the various routines like cruzada, ocho, molinete etc. by the leg motions at present... I'm not very experienced at reading the upper body) and because I can see it, I can more or less understand from what I have learned, what corresponding action I should be doing with my own body at that time, if I were in that position. But when I'm dancing myself, of course I can't see any of it and have no real idea what I should be doing at any given moment, because I don't really, truly know for a fact what she's doing. I get that I have to "feel" it but do I have to wait for that to happen before I can learn to "lead it"? Thanks in advance for your suggestions.