I can't. Ever, really. And it gets in the way of my dancing. Any advice for dealing with this, and letting go? Standard isn't much of a problem, and is a large part of the reason why I've chosen to focus on it. But any sort of latin/rhythm, or the club dances? Nope, can't do it. That self-conscious thing kicks in hardcore, and it just doesn't happen. Especially with hip action and arm styling. It's not so much of a problem in AT, because it can be so much more subtle without it being odd. But I can't bring myself to do embellishments, or make eye contact, etc. And there have definitely been times where I can tell that I pull back my motions, because I feel myself starting to let go, and the fear/self conscious thing kicks in. It's in AT where this not letting go really bothers me, because it's my passion. I'm not an in the moment type at all. Any suggestions? No, a drink does not help, I've tried.