Too follow up on that, the special connection comes when you are both on time and you are both working as couple. Don't expect it to be there with every partner, in fact, knowing your partner 'has not got it' is part of the learning curve. With experience you can take tell in about 30 seconds how your partner is balanced, what their timing is like, what there co-ordination is like - being able to dance within their envelope is as much part of leading/following as the process of indicating what you want them to do. Nothing is more exciting to me as a lead is follow who intuitively senses my ability - then pushs me to achieve more. That's when you get that special connection.