Hiya ppl! I just wanna say that the advices you guys were a great help! Was out dancing a few hours ago, when my usual gang wasn't around... So I had to go around asking for dances from "strangers" :lol: I was still having problems trying to improve my lead. As I went around trying out my usual stuff, I ended up having a difficult time AGAIN leading some of the girls whom I was dancing with. They seemed pretty tensed up for some reason. Anyway... all I can say was that the results weren't pretty... :cry: Then for some reason, I didn't know what got into me. I decided to ask one of my instructor for a dance (the horror! :shock. She looked pretty surprised as I've not really talked to her much 'cept for some questions on my rueda moves. So getting her on the dance floor, I did my usual so what again... :? Though she was "smiling", I could see that she was just "patronising" me or should I say plain bored... (For some reason, I hated to see bored looking faces when I'm dancing with someone, it's an insult to my self esteem... :lol: ) Thinking that enough was enough... I decided to spin her off for shines. THEN, I decided to ditch all the crap that I've learnt (the sadness of being a 100% "pattern dancer"! in the words of our dear mod )and just danced to the music (thanks to the advice given here) even though I was just randomly tapping/moving on the floor, I did it to the exact beat and tempo of the music. For some reason, she seemed to brighten up and did more shines as well... ^-^;;; anyway, she seemed pretty happy after the dance and I asked for her opinion on my problem. She said everything was pretty okay, even though I knew it was not (we got stucked when I tried to tunnel her... ) Sigh... guess she was just being polite... Anyway, the opinions from one of my friends was that, he was surprised to see me holding myself pretty well when dancing with her. Although it might just be an encouragement for me, it pretty much made my night, even though I went around saying how badly I did on the dancefloor with my instructor...(it's the truth ) So thanks a lot ppl!!! P.S. Just a little request. I'm having problems trying to make ladies look good while dancing with me, so is there any threads addressing this problem? Also, when the girls are doing shines while in Titanic postition(eh... I wonder do we use the same terminology...) what should the guys do? Just holding her hands and stand still (that's what I do normally, maybe I'll do a few butt shake if I'm feeling it...) How can we guys amplify her shines, so that she really shines (pardon the pun)on the dance floor?