Touchy feely alert! Tango Distance Unearths Root Cause? Positive Consequences I tend towards the nonhugging side of the spectrum. The dance thing gave rise to a lot of introspection, and reading, and writing here at DF. While I learned much about myself and others, I didn't really figure out exactly why I am a nonhugger -- the reasons I would read either didn't fit or were vague. It was still valuable to learn there are other nonhuggers, and other introverts. While visiting relatives, I suddenly saw the elephant in the room. It was always there to see, but I didn't see the obvious until it came up in a somewhat over-the-top fashion. Don't worry, it's nothing that would involve prison time for anyone. I just happened to pick up on and internalize something that I'm sure was not intended to lead to a nonhugging consequence. This realization is another step forward in my journey and helped make for better outcomes in the two following events: I saw a new face at a class and asked her when the instructor said to practice for a song. I asked if she had any Tango experience... She had just returned from an extensive visit to Buenos Aires! She immediately pulled me into a close embrace. Uncharacteristic of me, I just went with it, figuring it was a close embrace class and it would be more trouble than it was worth explaining I didn't want to do close embrace at a close embrace class. I did another close embrace class. The instructor helped me get a difficult step. After a while I happily exclaimed that I had it! Later I realized I had a moment just enjoying the step and was not even thinking about the close embrace thing.