How do you enjoy the learning aspect of tango? Your well-written and well-ordered initial post and subsequent responses have me pegging you as a logical and process oriented person. If you are, the more analytic aspects of tango can be highly rewarding and addicting. The cause-effect relationship of lead and follow, the biomechanics of forces, breaking down the steps to learning a new sequence, then breaking it apart and improvising with it...those are things people can find just as enjoyable as the social dancing aspect, if not more so. It's one of the reasons so many engineers get into tango, and something I believe tango does especially well compared to other dances. I could be off the mark. But if I'm not, my advice would be to try to focus on these aspects of tango versus the touchy-feely side - at least at first.