This has been a long and interesting thread. Like Tango Distance I'm not a touchy feely guy and even after about 15 years of dancing Latin and Ballroom and two full years learning AT - I'm still only comfortable dancing with Lily. ( and she's still back leading me!) I find dancing with short and petite followers awkward and difficult. I'm not a big person, 5 10" and 190 lbs, but I play hockey three mornings a week so my lead is strong and physical. At the group lessons and Practicas I rotate through all the ladies, and Lily pushes me to go over and dance with various followers, but honestly, at the Milongas I hide like a cowardly lion from "butterflies" - petite followers.