(You were able to quote my post before I had time to correct the absence of the words "fail to". No bother there though.) In his original post he did not ask "Am I wrong?" He asked "Am I right?" So there is a clear bias in his mind and he was looking for validation. Of which he did not receive. If he chooses to learn from the responses here that is only up to him. Or perhaps he will be staunch in his initial reaction that she was out of line. Who knows. No one but him. "Baying for blood" were not my words. I forget where that come in. My only point to make was that regardless of the social norms of my house vs your house... his initial reaction was quite normal and not really all that much of a cause for alarm or distress that it illicited. I may not agree with his response (or hers). But I would not condemn him for giving it. Surely we all have reacted spiteful when we felt rebuffed.