Thanks for the input everyone. That was really helpful. Interesting. Presumably this is the kind of thing you can only develop a feel for by just doing it a whole lot (not like I expected otherwise), but I'll keep this in mind. I hadn't thought about there being separate leads for legs and body. Well, I was trying to move exactly with the leader by staying square to him. But then the teacher came over and danced with me, and said that this was considered anticipating and I should wait until he physically moved me there, rather than following him under my own steam. Or at least that's what I understood her to be saying. Maybe I'm wrong. What part are you pushing with? I was kind of pushing with my right arm, but was told that that made the hold too stiff. I don't really see how to push with my left arm as it's behind his shoulder, and I can't push with my chest as we're dancing in open position (not that I want to do closed). Interesting. I guess what I am doing is moving my body and legs together at the first sign of a lead; but you're saying what I should be doing is just positioning my leg to take the weight, and waiting for the lead to develop more before I move my torso? That would make sense then that moving everything together is considered anticipating. I am definitely going to take private lessons. But I am taking one month of groups first, both to feel out the teachers and to meet some other tanguer@s. I learned salsa exclusively from privates and going out, and while it is the most efficient way to improve IMHO (and I think produces the best final results), it makes the social aspect rather difficult. It took me a long time to make salsa friends, and that made the whole going-out part more stressful than it needed to be. And tango seems like a much flatter learning curve too. I don't want to be the lame beginner sitting by myself at milongas for the next two years.