I'll throw this one in the mix. When I started dancing, it was all about the way the dancing feels. You did moves and everything, but the idea of 'showing off the woman' was never introduced. You just went out with your friends and danced, doing fun stuff to try to get the girls to smile. When I started taking lessons, everyone was talking about 'showing off the girl'. And the moves that people were learning became flashy and complicated. There was really no connection to speak of, and the music is forsaken for the sake of high technicality and patterns. Sometimes when I dance with a latin or non-studio girl, all that seductive / flirty energy comes out without being downright sleazy. There can be great intense eye contact, and within the moves, there will be the nice little touches we both add in to make it fun. When you dance with a studiohead, however, all that magic seems to be lost, there is almost no eye contact, and she will always seem to be counting the steps in her head while not giving any feedback or eye contact back.