Salsa > Salsa Singles

Discussion in 'Salsa' started by pygmalion, Jan 5, 2004.

  1. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member

    I was out browsing the web today and came across an ad for a singles dating/online meeting/matching service aimed at salsa dancers. Interesting, I thought. What do you think? Is the salsa scene a good way to meet people, particularly potential romantic interests? Online? In person? At the clubs? What's a good way for a salsero/salsero to meet a like-minded person?
  2. peachexploration

    peachexploration New Member

    Well, there's no easy answer on this one. I've heard extremely good and extremely bad instances. The bad instances will scare you to death. :shock: I guess it would depend on your patience to weed out loonies if you were ever approach by one at a site. I guess if it gets too bad you can always delete your account. I personally don't care for them if they're promoting the romance thingy. The thing is, not every site is as nice as DF. :D :D :D
  3. TheArchon

    TheArchon New Member

    I've dated some gals i've met in salsa parties(i guess all of you did in one time or another)... but you can really ruin it if you dont get along with her as a dance partner(i can't dance with gals that puts to much counter force), but online Salsa dating service, i really dont see the point, go to a Salsa party, there are like millions single girls there, so whats the point :roll: :?:

    But i do have another problem in this metter, you dance with a girl, you really like her, she seems to like you, but... you ask her for her age, and, she is 19 in the better case scenirio, or 16-17 in the worse case :( a 10-12 years from my age, i think i will break some day and date one of them...
  4. cowpaste

    cowpaste New Member

    I think online dating services are dumb in general. If you look at only people in your area, you won't have much choice. If you look for people not caring where they live, you are setting yourself up for a long distance relationship, and we all know how that works, especially if the relationship is based on something so physical like Salsa! As for dating 19 year old girls, I don't mind at all (not suprising considering I'm 20, lol). However, 18 is too young. They freaking don't know what they want. :)

    Why am I even replying at all? I can't even freaking dance Salsa yet.
    *cowpaste goes off to practice with a door while feeling stupid*
  5. ricodancer

    ricodancer New Member

    Why bother with Salsa dating, indeed, when there are so many great Salsa parties in the Bay Area? Just about every night of the week, if you can stand salsa, salsa, salsa. I get bored with endless salsas, I wish more DJ''s would play more cha-chas, rhumbas, and even sambas, it's great when they do- just remember, if you don't know the basics- please sit it out. It's dangerous when a DJ at a salsa party plays a cha-cha, and people are still trying to dance salsa to a cha-cha rhythm. Or better still, everybody learn the other Latin dances- you'll have a lot more variety, and the opposite sex will be impressed- then you'll have even less need of "dating service" salsa websites.
  6. borikensalsero

    borikensalsero Moderator

    Welcome to the forums Rico Dancer. :D

    And... I must humbly disagree with a few of your statements. Rumbas or Sambas? If a person isn't into latin ballroom dancing, which is a great bunch of people, then we really don't dance samba, nor rumba. While the change of pace might be nice to a few, what good does it do to a Salsa club to have the dance floor empty 30% of the night? Eventually it will be less and less to the point where people won't want to frequent the spot. Why? Salseros are one-love animals. We don't "cheat", we are way too monogamist when it comes to salsa, hence, if it doesn't come close to sounding like salsa, we’ll most likely not dance it, nor want to be in the place that plays it.

    My other disagreement… If you can't dance it, get up there and shake it. There are a few of us who can't afford the 15 bucks weekly lessons to learn the trade. Hence, we have to wing it to learn a few other “salsa related” dances. What better place than a dance hall to learn to dance? Soon, those guys you have asked to sit down will be dancing just like everyone else and the more the better.

    Cha cha can be son, son montunoed, and to a point mamboed to. If you can dance son or son montuno, or salsa and are able to apply it to cha cha, then that is truly a mastery of the craft. Applying the roots of a dance to its offspring music, or even a child’s way to its father. Love it… I mesh salsa into my cha cha dancing and at the end I know that many aren’t willing to break the mold of “there is only one way to do things”. Plus I get the ladies to say, wow, that was hot. God, I even throw the few yambu moves I know into a cha cha. I must admit that I don’t particularly believe that dancing to latin music especially afro-cuban beats that there is a one and sole way of expressing the soul as per its music.
  7. salsachinita

    salsachinita New Member

    This is my cue to be the topic police :shock: :lol: !

    Let's get back to the 'whether we need a salsa single site' issue.
    I think "Partner Search" is more practical (for you lucky ones in the States anyway).

    Now I would LOVE to hear some of your partner search stories....did any of you ever turn it into romance? Any horror/funny stories?
  8. borikensalsero

    borikensalsero Moderator

    I look at the entire single site thing rather different than most. I don't look at them as a place to hook up, nor get lucky. I instead look at them as a place to make friends. So, if it happens to be salsa friends, the better it is for me.

    I make it a point to tell salsa women that I've met online, that I am only looking for a friendship and that I am already involved. What are you doing in a single site? Hmmm, not trying to get a quicky that’s for sure. I’m here to interact. J If they have something else in mind then there is no need to meet. All I really care for is to know people, interact with them, learn from them, and if they can salsa. Then we dance baby!

    In my opinion, if you seek for romantic involvement from a web site and happen to find it from a salsera and you are a salsero, then great for you. Before it used to be people knocking on each other for meeting at a club, now the web has taken its place. Ahhhh, you find love whereever love finds you. There are those professionals who can rarely get out and dance, hence, websites making it easier for them to, hopefully find love. Now, with the salsa singles, all it means is that you have something in common, so you don’t have to worry about taking away from the love of salsa.
  9. peachexploration

    peachexploration New Member

    I definitely agree with you there. These sites are most often used as quick fixes for Saturday Night which is not a good thing in my opinion. I mean, it really takes time to "know" someone especially if it is not someone you "physically" see and interact with everyday. (And even that is not guaranteed.) Alot of the time, many people at these single sites aren't willing to "invest" the time they need to build relationships. Not everyone is this way, but you have to weed out alot of them. I hear wierd instances from my friends like:

    1. First email received from some guy in Zimbabwe: I love you! You are the most beautiful person I've seen in my life. Will you married me? :shock:

    2. You've been talking backing in forth with this guy for two months, you finally get up enough nerve to give him your personal email address. He then turns into the reject editor of a pornography magazine. Awful! :evil:

    3. You've been talking to this girl for months at this site. You finally meet her. Falls head over heels. Then, runs a background check to be sure. (Person is a police officer of course. :D ) Finds out that she is married with three children. :evil:

    The stories are wierd but on the other hand, I know this couple who met at a single site and have been happily married for ten years! :D :D Anyway, there are good and bad things about any single site but also, things like this happen without using a single site. For instance, you've known this person since highschool(nice person then) and you find he/she turns out to be the rooftop killer they talk about in the movie, "You've Got Mail". :lol: I know that's a little extreme but really, you never know. :D
  10. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member

    Eek! Those are scary stories, peachexploration. Good thing I wasn't asking for myself. I prefer to meet guys in person. Nothing like some good old fashioned eye contact, if you ask me.

    What about salsa clubs as good places to meet? Anyone?
  11. peachexploration

    peachexploration New Member

    Well, I've only been to one Salsa club in the last year. I had a great time but didn't do any Salsa because the guy I was with had his own version that only "he" could identify. :lol: I was with him so I couldn't really go off and dance with someone else. I still had loads of fun though! About meeting other singles at salsa clubs...hmmmm...I don't know. It depends on the type of crowd and area. I've only had the "bad meat market experiences" when a bunch of us girls go to the clubs. So my opinion about this is a little negative. But hey, it's a new year, anything could happen. :idea: Maybe I can get a bunch of guys from class to meet us there for protection next time. :lol: Anyone else :?:
  12. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member

    Girl! Let's do it. :lol: :lol: You going to class Sunday? There was a cutie pie in class before, and I actually ran into him at a ballroom dance. Not bad at cha cha, very good at merengue and salsa, HOPELESS at waltz. But cute, so who cares? :lol:
  13. peachexploration

    peachexploration New Member

    Hey! Yeah, I'm going Sunday. I can't wait. I must have been out of my mind taking more that a thiry-second vacation from Salsa. Really missed you guys. :lol:
  14. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member

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