So I've heard on the grapevine that a small tango community (not in london so I don't know the ins and outs hence I won't name it or go into too much detail) has been having a big email fest over things that seem to have been brewing for a while. The main issues raised were: It is unfair that the 'good' leaders only dance with young/pretty/good women. Young/pretty/good women hog all the best leaders They should introduce tandas/cortinas to prevent 'hogging' of decent partners men should never ever turn down an invitation to dance men and women should be free to dance with who they want and not to dance with who they don't want. There are too many women there are not enough good leaders leaders don't have any incentive to improve because the women are all so desperate to dance that they'll dance with any one no matter how awful and painful they are to dance with. My answer to this when I was moaned to at length by someone who recieved the million emails was: Why don't the women just learn to lead? has anyone else encountered these types of problems in their community? If so what was done about it? Did things change? Are issues above that much of a problem? Should we ban all young/pretty/good female dancers from milongas? Am very intertested to hear what people think.