As a leader, I am more attracted to choosing someone to dance if she exhibits certain tendencies. 1. If she smiles. This tells me that she is in a good mental frame. 2. If she is on the sidelines practicing instead of sitting. You'd think that she wouldn't be "bothered" if she appeared to be "busy." But being active attracts me more that if she was passive (sitting). All I have to do to get asked is to discreetly practice my routines or new moves on the dance floor. Every time I do this, I always get asked myself. 3. If she is skilled. I know that this isn't inherently "fair." Every dancer has to start somewhere! But if I know that she is advanced, I will tend to ask her because I love to use my own advanced moves that could not be done with a beginner. 4. If she has given me good past experience. If I remember her being "fun" for a previous dance, she is bumped way up on my dance card list! If her previous reactions have been positive, I will wait in line to dance with her again! To leaders: What else attracts you? To followers: What other factors make you popular on the dance floor? To everyone: How else do you increase your chances of being asked to dance?